Is being gay a choice? Genuine question

  • Absolutely not. Who you get attracted to is not a choice, but whether you choose to acknowledge it or not is a choice indeed.

  • I for sure didn't choose to be bi ...we are judged by both sides and it sucks tbh...if you happen to date an opposite sex, the lgbt community tells you, you aren't gay enough and just pretended or whatever and if you happen to date the same sex, it's just you being frivolous, or it's just a phase, according to heterosexuals (there is one comment like that in this thread too)


    I have feelings for a guy right now but the fact I'm bi will never change ....I'm still really attracted to girls too and trust me life would be easier if I wasn't as I'm living in a heavily Christian country

  • your parents are some really big idiot and ignorant


    if being gay was a choice, do they really think that she would make this choice knowing that in the future she might face discrimination, attacks about her sexual preference, and risking of losing people that she love and will not accept her for who she is '-'

  • unless people are being masoschist i don't know anybody who would make the choice of being gay knowing all the repercussion doing your coming out can have on your life , if it was a choice nobody would do it


    i swear people who say this are the most dumb people on earth

  • unless people are being masoschist i don't know anybody who would make the choice of being gay knowing all the repercussion doing your coming out can have on your life , if it was a choice nobody would do it


    i swear people who say this are the most dumb people on earth

    no literally

    i promise nobody wants to be gay lol being straight would erase so many of our problems .

    most of us cannot come out due to rampant homophobia many people live in countries where it’s ILLEGAL to be gay and punishable by death .. and u think it was a choice ??? 😭

  • I'm in the same boat. I'm a straight female and I have a strong preference for male gay porn over any other type of porn.

    actually, this is quite normal. as a straight female, you would be attracted to men. straight porn tends to focus on the women's body etc more. whereas gay porn focuses on the male body. it's normal to like it more. i mean two hot guys....or more what not to like lol

  • I know three families where parents didn't accept the sexual orientation of children.

  • I know three families where parents didn't accept the sexual orientation of children. This is terribly unfair to children, as I believe, because parents after a kid's Coming Out, need to start studying schooling resources that will help to better understand gays.

  • I know three families where parents didn't accept the sexual orientation of children.

  • It’s not and it’s difficult. I think I’m bi. I used be a lesbian few years back. I had a gf. Now, I like man.


    It is a difficult situation to be in. The best support system is from family.

  • It should be very simple to comprehend even if you are straight, just ask yourself at what exact point in your life did you pick your sexuality, or whether you can consciously flip to gay whenever you want. You can't. So it's not a choice in any way.

  • No matter where they are in the world, families are sad about this situation. In particular, some countries are more strict on these issues. That's why some of them hide their preferences from the public. My family close friend and their son was spotted and rumored to be gay, but his mother still insists on marrying him off to a girl. And it doesn't accept it they way he is. They are born that way, because nobody prefers to be excluded from society. So if you're force her, she will be very unhappy, tell you sister that you accept her the way she is and say love her. Inform your family and explain that this is natural. Try to explain that it's innate. Unfortunately, most families try to impose their wishes on their childs

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