What's with people avoiding the term bisexual?

    I hate how so many famous people say things like "Well I like people, not genders. Which means my sexuality can't be defined" Like what???? That is literally bisexuality!! It's almost as if bisexual is a dirty word. People rather say their sexuality isn't defined than use the word bisexual. Then they say, I don't like the term bisexual. It doesn't describe me. Uhm, yes it does? Bisexuality means liking people, not genders.


    Just look at this quote from Kesha (She says her sexuality can't be labeled):

    "I don't love just men. I love people. It's not about a gender. It's just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you're with... I wouldn't say I'm gay or straight - I don't like labeling things anyway. I just like people."



    She is literally describing bisexuality but refusing to say the word. This has happened so many times with different celebrities. It's bi-erasure to say your sexuality can't be defined when bisexual is the literal term for what you're experiencing.

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    "Bi" implies that there are only 2 genders. You can't say that anymore or you'll be canceled.


    Actually, this is the definition of bisexuality: Bisexuality encompasses a wide spectrum of attraction. A bisexual person may be attracted to any number of genders, from two to all, and may be attracted to any genders in any combination (including non-binary genders).

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    Is it because bisexual implies two so it excludes non-binary and thus it's cancel worthy? If that's the case they could say pansexual.

    No, since this describes bisexual attraction: Bisexuality encompasses a wide spectrum of attraction. A bisexual person may be attracted to any number of genders, from two to all, and may be attracted to any genders in any combination (including non-binary genders).

    From what I understand... bisexuality is more rigid in that it specifically pertains to two genders whereas pansexual is more fluid and can include anyone, anywhere on the gender spectrum.


    They're similar, but different. I think part of the reason people have shied away from considering themselves as bisexual is because it implies that there are two genders, but many people don't feel that's correct so they consider themselves pansexual even if they are attracted to cis male and cis female people.

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    From what I understand... bisexuality is more rigid in that it specifically pertains to two genders whereas pansexual is more fluid and can include anyone, anywhere on the gender spectrum.


    They're similar, but different. I think part of the reason people have shied away from considering themselves as bisexual is because it implies that there are two genders, but many people don't feel that's correct so they consider themselves pansexual even if they are attracted to cis male and cis female people.

    But that is a wrong definition of bisexuality. Bisexuality means attraction to two or more genders. So many bisexual people like more than 2 genders. Many bisexuals even like all genders.

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    But that is a wrong definition of bisexuality. Bisexuality means attraction to two or more genders. So many bisexual people like more than 2 genders. Many bisexuals even like all genders.

    Everyone defines sexuality and gender different. The dictionary definition is literally being attracted to two genders which is male and female. Some people define it as more than two genders, but the word is literally rooted in there only being two genders.

    Quote from dummi

    yeah I agree. I'm bi, used to think I only liked biological men and women but when I really thought about it that made no sense and was transphobic at worst and stupid as fuck at best

    I'm bi and I honestly like everyone that i find attractive. I don't mind any gender identities.

    Quote from quark12395

    Everyone defines sexuality and gender different. The dictionary definition is literally being attracted to two genders which is male and female. Some people define it as more than two genders, but the word is literally rooted in there only being two genders.

    Does the 'bi means 2' crowd really believe in what they say or


    "I'm sorry Stacey, I was really attracted to you but now I know you're non-binary so all interest in you has vanished. Maybe if you identified as a demigirl you'd be hot to me again."

    This thread really explains why tbh, because everyone has a different definition of bi vs pan


    For me personally bi means attracted to 2 or more genders while pan means attracted to personality regardless of gender so it's more that there's not as much of a physical attraction + you don't lean a certain way. However others might view it completely differently :cryingr:

    Quote from silver25

    But that is a wrong definition of bisexuality. Bisexuality means attraction to two or more genders. So many bisexual people like more than 2 genders. Many bisexuals even like all genders.

    idk man, it doesn't really matter. who cares what they go by. love is love in the end?

    and even if people are avoiding the word bisexual, it doesn't matter. people will identify as what they feel most comfortable with. its not really something that can be defined by a dictionary.

    Quote from blingyblinger

    This thread really explains why tbh, because everyone has a different definition of bi vs pan


    For me personally bi means attracted to 2 or more genders while pan means attracted to personality regardless of gender so it's more that there's not as much of a physical attraction + you don't lean a certain way. However others might view it completely differently :cryingr:

    My thoughts ^^^^^^

    Quote from silver25

    Does the 'bi means 2' crowd really believe in what they say or


    "I'm sorry Stacey, I was really attracted to you but now I know you're non-binary so all interest in you has vanished. Maybe if you identified as a demigirl you'd be hot to me again."

    I mean I'm sure some of them do. There are straight and gay people who view not being transgendered or non-binary to be a deal breaker so I'm sure there are bisexual people who feel the same way.

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    I mean I'm sure some of them do. There are straight and gay people who view not being transgendered or non-binary to be a deal breaker so I'm sure there are bisexual people who feel the same way.

    I'm just saying, if you're attracted to a guy, but then find out they identify as non-binary, it's not like you're gonna lose all that attraction.

    Quote from silver25

    I'm just saying, if you're attracted to a guy, but then find out they identify as non-binary, it's not like you're gonna lose all that attraction.

    I agree, but you know how people are. Some of them have some deep rooted issues and refuse to understand that.

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