How can I avoid my girlfriend trying to friendzone me?

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    We've only been together for 2 months and had only 3 dates (due to lockdowns and her study), but chatted a lot online. She attempted to friend zone me on Tuesday because she said that she has too much pressure in her life (from studying a masters degree and pressure from parents) and can't have a boyfriend right now. She was like "We can be really, really good friends! Meet very often, one day I'll take you to my hometown in China and you can see my family. I think we can even continue our relationship again one day". After that, I said "Honestly I'm not interested in being friends. Come back when you're ready to continue our relationship". She said "I'll always be here for you, send me a message whenever you want!" and then mentioned that we should meet after lockdown (in 2 weeks) and make our final decision. I agreed, but said that we shouldn't stay in contact during this time.
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    An hour later she was like "Be honest, you hate me right?". I said "I have never hated you even 1%. I just can't be your friend because I have feelings for you. It would be inauthentic and it wouldn't be what I really want". She said "Honestly...now I'm really really sad. But I'll gradually get used to losing contact with you". She said that she still wants to meet after lockdown (in 2 weeks) though.
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    She also changed her whatsapp status to "Focusing on study and turning sadness into strength".
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    Now, It's been 5 days and we haven't chatted at all. Have I done the right thing? I'm hoping that she will miss me in this time and consider getting back together with me.
  • AllKill VIP

    If she wants friendship at the moment, but you a relationship, things can get unnecessarily complicated. You might except being friends for now, but after a while you will start to get inpatient and might cause uncomfortable situations.


    I think it’s better to let go tho. Like don’t directly jump into the next relationship, but don’t wait either.

    If she comes back and you’re still available and want her back too, cool go for it. If not, she missed her chance.

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