Advice is SEVERELY NEEDED: I like two guys and they both have girlfriends

  • Hi guys, I'm in a predicament that I NEVER thought id be in and I'm totally clueless on what to do. My friends give shit advice so I hope this helps

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  • suprememadisyn

    Changed the title of the thread from “Advice is SEVERELY NEEDED” to “Advice is SEVERELY NEEDED: I like two guys and they both have girlfriends”.
  • he had 4 months to ask you out. move on. if they do break up, don't be a rebound. when you find the right one, you'll understand why this guy wasn't the right one for you.

    true, but his even now girlfriend told me she made the move on him. I asked him in the car if she didn't ask him out on a date would he have said anything. He told me maybe if overtime he liked her vibe. I knew him first but she acted first so I respect her and their relationship.

    Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it. it

  • It's not worth it. I've been cheated on multiple times. Don't be that person. There will be plenty of other guys.

    Period girl. I thought it was obvious I meant maybe waiting but not waiting like dating others but when they are available, give them their time and go for it. It's sad that so many girls homewreck to the point that's what a lot of people's initial thought was reading this. I would never! I had the opportunity to be with a guy I liked for years and then he randomly got married. I still said no. if I can say no to my childhood crush then I can say no to any guy that isn't available.

    I'm so sorry this happened to you and I promise that won't be me. I'll give an update 2 to 3 months from now and knowing myself, admitting I home wrecked won't be a part of that update. I always think about the effects of my actions on others in general. I would never want to put another woman through that especially ones that been nothing but kind to me.

  • i think it would be better for OP just to leave it where it is and move on.

    that might be true but if that was all it was then I'm sure the OP's friend would've already said that no?

    I mean everyone's giving her the they have GFs move on line but wouldn't that be the most obvious answer and yet she still asks it here so I'm giving her a slightly different opinion

    (not that I would ask her to cheat but merely to have an answer to her question)

    it might give her either hope or closure depending on the answers

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    definitely just try to move on. i know it's easier said than done but you really don't want to be the girl that steals the boyfriends. the reason i say this is because i was that girl once and i deeply regret it. the girl's name is Daisy and i'm actually getting a tattoo of a daisy pretty soon as a reminder of the whole incident. i think as humans, we forget how easily we can tear another person's life apart, and that's dangerous. whether you believe in karma or not, everything that you do DOES come back to you, and it feels fucking earth shattering when it does.

    my dms are always open if you need anything.

    i think you'd like these, they're relatable.

    Olivia O'Brien- Almost In Love

    Olivia O'Brien- Was It All In My Head?

    Madison Beer- Stay Numb and Carry On

    Taylor Swift- Girl At Home

    Carly Rae Jepsen- Party For One

    so kiss me, i'm the yuno-gasai-icegif-18.gif m o n s t e r that you made

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    You have doubts while talking about it and I can see that you are not the kind of person who would be able to not care at all. You might be feeling hot headed right now and the time you spend with them might be exciting but I doubt it would end well for you even if you end up having an affair and you would end up feeling like trash once the feeling of being drunk on those guys passes (and it will pass)

  • They both have a girlfriend. They'd probably initiate much more if they wanted something more, given the amount of time that has gone by since the start of all this.

    Wait, can you elaborate on this one? Are you saying that if they wanted something more there would be more to tell? At the end of the day they do have girlfriends. I personally wouldn't want my boyfriend telling a girl who is seeking to go out with him "you're pretty". if its a friend that's fine but idk about a girl who's interested in him. I wouldn't have read too much into it since saying a girl is pretty is empty until he basically said when he's single like sir, he should have said you don't be single any time soon.

    Technically, with kent this only started 3 weeks ago since every time I walked in to his job, he would walk in the back so he hasn't seen me till now but I feel like with Carter, you're right. We've known each other for 4 months now. Thank you for sharing your perspective!

    The fact that you like TWO guys at once indicates that you shouldn't be looking for a relationship right now.

    If they cheat on their girlfriends, they're not the type of guys you want to be with anyway.

    I'm not really looking for a relationship. I've never sought one out. I just know I don't want to be their friends. If you know what I mean. Not friends with benefits btw I mean casual/steady/see how it goes. I'm usually the type if I like you, I don't like anyone else but me getting closer to Carter every day is making my 5-minute convos with Kent not as alluring as it was before. Now that I know about his girlfriend, I don't want them to be longer.

    Period! If they would do it to them, they would do it to me. The only difference would be I would actually deserve it. Karma is a bitch.

  • @OP

    maybe you should drop the

    "if you weren't going out with x, would you go out with me line" to get your answer to your question

    Mhmm here's the thing. I like this one a lot and this would totally help but I know damn well I would not like it if another woman said some shit like this to my man but then again, this would help me figure out if I should wait and date or not or just get completely over them. So, ill consider it depending on the conversation at hand.

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