Hi guys, I'm in a predicament that I NEVER thought id be in and I'm totally clueless on what to do. My friends give shit advice so I hope this helps
Backstory: I started working at my current job 4 months ago. Now I'm the "Don't mix business with pleasure type" so yeah I noticed that a few of my male peers were attractive but I always kept it at a level. Over time I developed a friendship with them where I can't even see them in that way. One, in particular, has a sister that works there. I befriended her and some nights shed bring me home. Were going to call them " Kristin" and "Carter". They share a car so if he got off early, he'd go home and come back to pick us up after our shift ends sometimes. He works mornings and we (Kirstin and me) close on most days. He's pretty cool but he keeps to himself and we talk every once in a while. I had a dream about him that was slightly intimate but I never paid much attention since I didn't like him. Then, Id say February is when me and him starting talking more and growing closer. That same month a new girl started working there in late February. Were going to call her Nicki. She is pretty cool as well. So two to three weeks ago she tells me she's going on a date after work telling me how they just became official after talking for 2 weeks (I think) something like that. Then the next day, I see her buddy buddy with Carter and I'm like "huh, but she has a boyfriend so can't be" I forgot what Carter did that day but I started just looking at him differently through our conversations for the next couple of days growing interested in him. Then one night after closing I'm getting a ride from some other coworkers since Kirstin was busy. We leave the store together and there is Carter in the car with Nicki and I'm like "WTF, he's the guy"
So, this is a completely different story. I'm going to tell you guys about another guy that I also like but I've been interested in him for 3 months, so since January. He DOES NOT work at our job. We're calling this guy "Kent". He works at the supermarket next door like it's literally 3 seconds away from my job. I would go in and see him but every time I walked in the store he would be heading to the back of it. So I just accepted that we were never going to speak. Then 2 weeks ago, I come in the store and of course, he goes to the back as always but then he comes back out and it was my time to say something, so I did. I asked him to recommend some microwavable TV dinner Macroonis. He shows it and then I say something awkward to him and leave. (not gonna say what it was, but it was nothing related to me liking him). I try the macaroni and it tasted great! So I go back the next day and see him and tell him how it was. Then, I go to the freezer aisle and get a different mac & cheese that I tried before I ever spoke to him. I'm walking to the cashier and he comes walking past then stops me to say "that taste good, you're going to like it" so I tell him " I already did, Gabe (another worker there that I know recommended it). he says "oh, Gabe yeah I know him" then I go pay to leave.
Everything thing that I'm going to state from this instance happened last week.
I go to Kent's job. There was a line due to covid. Kent was working the front (finally) as I get to the front of the line he sees me, says hi, and asked me if I worked next door and I say yes. I told him I'm here to get the usual. I buy the mac and cheese and as I'm leaving he tells me I should try another macaroni flavor that's really good next time I come. I ask to him to take off his mask to see if he was still cute with it off and he totally was. I say mhm and then ask him what time he gets off and he tells me 12:00. That explains why I have never seen him leave since the latest my job ends is 11:30.
So, I'm at work on Thursday and Carter is just getting off work. As soon as that happens my manager tells me to go on break. So we're talking and I asked how would you like to be approached by a girl. he answers then says " why do you ask," I tell him I want to talk to Kent. So I convince him to come with me. Long story short I failed. Couldn't even talk to the guy due to my social anxiety since a lot of other people were around while I wanted to talk to him and I felt it would be inappropriate. We just walk in the same aisle twice, buy something, then leave. Carter consoles me and says just go back tomorrow. Carter starts telling me how he sees Kent pushing carts outside so maybe I could talk to him then. Later that night, I go outside and see him pushing carts. I see a trader joes one and let's just say the cart did its own thing and charged at Kent LOL. I say sorry and go back inside.
I got off early and so did Carter. He got off at 5:30 and me at 4. We both ended up not leaving at those times. Im working with his girlfriend. I tell her how I'm going to ask Carter for a ride. She didn't seem phased by it so I ask him. He repeatedly says no due to plans and that I'm leaving at 7 and him at 6 so he's not going to wait. What does he end up doing? Literally staying till 7:35. We go into his car and I offer to get him Rita's since he told me he never had a Gelati. We go and end up talking for 2 hours outside my house. Yall I even got butterflies for a second during one of our convos. There was a lot of staring at each other. Long pauses. We were examining each other's lips at one point. I was trying to get his phone from him so a lot of touching but nothing too far. I even got him to admit that he waited for me. He was even comparing himself to my type of guy without realizing it, I think.
We got off early but his girlfriend didn't and she was telling him to come to pick her up and you can just tell he didn't want to leave. She had to text him again. He told me that he was just going to take me with lol. I didn't feel like third-wheeling so I just left LMAOOO
So thoughts??? Do any of these guys feel the same about me from what yall heard so far? Should I wait or move on? I don't want to look too much into it since they BOTH have girlfriends but I feel something with the both of them. I could just be overthinking it. It doesn't matter anyway since I'm not actively trying to home wreck either relationship but I genuinely have no clue on what to do. I'm going to keep seeing both of them and talk to them, I just don't want to overstep. it's hard though. I like Kent more but Carter and I are way closer. Kent already knows I like him whereas Carter doesn't.
* Yall I just wanted to know by the interactions with them if I should wait or try my best to move on not if I should homewreck or anythingz1