how can someone take justice from people who bullied them when they are young?

I don't think the apology would really work, well for me. I was cyber bullied and verbally bullied, I don't think getting an apology from those people would really help me recover from the experiences that happened. Especially the cyber bully one. It might help calm some other people though.

I cant relate, my life has been all flower and happiness

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well, i am happy for you, but how is this thread about your life?

That means I cant answer your question that well....

I can relate too. I’ve been a victim of bullying ever since I was in 3rd grade. It’s not something that can just be excused. Can someone be forgiven? Yes. But that doesn’t change the emotional damage they have done to that other person, as well as their actions. Bullying is not something that should be taken lightly, and to whoever who is being bullied, or who was bullied at any given point in their life, please know that you are loved, and that you are wonderful!💗

In my opinion an apology from the bully should not be necessary or even that helpful. That is putting the healing process in the hands of someone else. From what I've seen bullying and the effects of it afterwards are attributed to letting other people's actions and words affect you. So requiring another person's words to heal from that is still relying on others.

I would encourage your sister to be more independent and try to encourage self love. If she can stop caring what others think about her because she knows she loves herself as she is, that can go a long way toward healing and feeling better and more confident about herself.

That being said, it may not work for her, because I don't know all the details.

revenge my friend is a dish best served cold!!!!!!!

I was bullied at a young age as well, both physically and otherwise...

imagine the 90s when bullying wasn't a major issue and being the only Asian in a school otherwise filled with Caucasians...

I cannot speak for your sister OP since I don't know her or you but I can only comment on my own experiences...I used that anger I felt towards them to be better at them to accomplish something in life more than they can, to show them in real that I am the victor whilst they will always be LOSERS...

I turned all that negative energy into resilience and for me it toughed me up to the world...but again i cannot speak for others only my pwn experiences...

I went back to the school and spoke with former teachers and such about my former classmates/bullies...I like what i heard...

My daughter who is nearly 19 and I both got bullied at High school. She’s more resilient than me and recovered into a beautiful and confident young woman, whereas with me it has left a lasting scar from both my older sister who was mean to me all my life to a teacher who bullied me for three years. At the end of the day, you’ve got something the bully doesn’t have, they’re the losers.

i don’t like talking much about my family on the internet but my little sister got bullied a lot the last three or four years (she’s literally just in third grade rn). she never brought it up at home and the teachers never picked up on it or didn’t care enough idk so we wouldn’t have known until i found a suicide note shoved in her drawer. she was literally only eight

honestly it was so shocking and painful to read. we involved the school and everything. thank god she has online school now but her personality did change a lot. she’s more reserved and quiet. it’s hard for us and especially for her i love her the most so it hurts a lot

Sorry, but you too cant compare your case of bully with all the cases. Any case is going to have different variables and if you dont know them then you cant say much. About the apology, i believe if is sincere sometimes can help, i mean, a apology is better than nothing. About there is not excuse for bullying. Mmmm, i believe this is a wrong take. In other countries, like Finland for example, teachers and psychologists have tried to identified the causes of bullying so they can attack the root of the problem, wich in alot of cases have to do with bad parenthood and also a violent social environment. And about the age, sorry but you cant take this out of the ecuation. I mean, the world does take in consideration the age, that is why many countries judge different an adult and a child. Anyway, i hope your sister get better

Yes, I got bullied during my nursery and kg grades. I was really really young. I got mentally and physically abused. Got some punches from two boys lol. It led to me having social anxiety disorder.

My parents always excused it with me being shy but things are much more worse.

But whenever bullying scandals happen I tend to be neutral since these types of allegations are serious and I don't want to jump on conclusions that easily.

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Yes, I got bullied during my nursery and kg grades. I was really really young. I got mentally and physically abused. Got some punches from two boys lol. It led to me having social anxiety disorder.

My parents always excused it with me being shy but things are much more worse.

But whenever bullying scandals happen I tend to be neutral since these types of allegations are serious and I don't want to jump on conclusions that easily.

Also, I have no grudges against my bullies now. They surely ruined my whole personality and future. But I do understand they were young too and had no idea of wrong or right. Its all on their upbringing and what their parents taught.

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In my opinion an apology from the bully should not be necessary or even that helpful. That is putting the healing process in the hands of someone else. From what I've seen bullying and the effects of it afterwards are attributed to letting other people's actions and words affect you. So requiring another person's words to heal from that is still relying on others.

I would encourage your sister to be more independent and try to encourage self love. If she can stop caring what others think about her because she knows she loves herself as she is, that can go a long way toward healing and feeling better and more confident about herself.

That being said, it may not work for her, because I don't know all the details.

haj1ma ! Tell your sister to listen to BTS's love yourself albums!

Being young is not really an excuse. Those kids know if the same actions and words are used against them they will feel bad and hurt. You should simply never do something that you don't want others to do with you.

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Also, I have no grudges against my bullies now. They surely ruined my whole personality and future. But I do understand they were young too and had no idea of wrong or right. Its all on their upbringing and what their parents taught.

they ruined everything and yet you forgive them???

interesting my friend...I guess I'm less forgiving ...

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they ruined everything and yet you forgive them???

interesting my friend...I guess I'm less forgiving ...

They were kids too. 5 to 6 years old. At that time I think kids don't know they are doing something wrong. They learn from their parents. I was bullied by three groups/people separately- two boys of my age, one girl (1-year elder than me), and a girl (2 years elder than me). I had told my parents about this and they just joked as if I am shy and I'll adapt. So I am upset with them till now for this thing.