When she doesn't know

What do you do when she doesn't know what she means to you, and you can't bring yourself to tell her?

Quote from xx-jenn-xx

you write it down and just send it otherwise if you dont you'll regret it and wonder what if?

Quote from timedisplace

I can always bring myself to say what I mean. Even if it's not face to face, I send it in a really really really long text or a hand written letter.

If I do that, I feel like everything I've built will crumble.

Like a sandcastle.

Quote from xx-jenn-xx

Put your pride down before you regret never saying anything and missing out.

It's not about pride.

It's about fear.

Quote from ripia

Don't do it, will make things awkward make sure she's interested first.

And really interested not just playing.

That's my main concern.

Quote from citron-icy

First try to know if the person is in the relationship or not. If this person already has a relationship, unfortunately, it's too late and you'll have to move on.

If this person is not in a relationship, do you need to define how close you are to this person? Are you colleagues? friends ? close or not?

And if you're free and close to each other, unfortunately, there are not many solutions, you will have to take the risk of confessing your feelings to this person. If I remember correctly, you are in your thirties, so avoid telling this person in writing, prefer an oral statement.

You're first point is good to remember, she's not in a relationship though. That would make her off limits for me.

And I'll have to think over the other two carefully.

But you're absolutely right, if I decide to do it, it'd definitely be in person. That amount of respect is deserved.

Quote from Lulu_Key

what do you fear more?

trying and failing or never trying?

I always fear not trying more

I fear losing what already exists.

Quote from ripia

timing is everything and you'll ultimately lose a friendship if it isn't the right timing and she isnt interested too.

So I'd just if I were you wait untill there is interest.

It's a lot to think about.

Well, I told her.

It didn't ruin anything, but it didn't end up in anything either.

It does feel freeing, like a weight off my shoulders.

Quote from Ves

You made the same choice I would have - to tell. You had the courage and I applaud that.

Thanks. It was scary. But I think it was ultimately worth it.

"If you shoot for Mars and end up on the Moon, you're further than you were before"