Sorta inspired by this thread.
we all have those moments when we are in pain or a difficult situation and people around us act with 0 sympathy. Really a salt rob in the wound.
Many instances, when my father passed away and my uncle (mum's real brother) didn't pay back the money my father gave to him and acted like he never took any money from dad. (It was supposed to be a secret between dad and my uncle bcoz it was my uncle's request to hide it from mum but dad ended up telling mom about it that time).
Actually, now that I think about it I get to see everyone's true faces after dad passed away. I had some documentation work to do and I requested my friend to tag along with me, it was three-four days after dad's death, she usually loved it when we hang out together but when I asked her that day, even though she came she gave me a cold shoulder throughout the day and that was the last time I asked her for help.
Many instances, when my father passed away and my uncle (mum's real brother) didn't pay back the money my father gave to him and acted like he never took any money from dad. (It was supposed to be a secret between dad and my uncle bcoz it was my uncle's request to hide it from mum but dad ended up telling mom about it that time).
Actually, now that I think about it I get to see everyone's true faces after dad passed away. I had some documentation work to do and I requested my friend to tag along with me, it was three-four days after dad's death, she usually loved it when we hang out together but when I asked her that day, even though she came she gave me a cold shoulder throughout the day and that was the last time I asked her for help.
I completely understand the situation where your parents siblings take financial advantage of them.
I completely understand the situation where your parents siblings take financial advantage of them.
My dad was overly nice, my uncle knew if my mum would get to know about it she won't let dad give any money to him (it wasn't the first time he took it, he took it many times before and never paid back, though this time the sum he took was huge for a middle class family like us). But dad ended up helping him again and again. Our financial status hit badly after dad's passing, even the distant relatives were helpful but not my uncle, he pretended to be ignorant and its been over 2.5 years and he has yet to mention anything about it.
My dad was overly nice, my uncle knew if my mum would get to know about it she won't let dad give any money to him (it wasn't the first time he took it, he took it many times before and never paid back, though this time the sum he took was huge for a middle class family like us). But dad ended up helping him again and again. Our financial status hit badly after dad's passing, even the distant relatives were helpful but not my uncle, he pretended to be ignorant and its been over 2.5 years and he has yet to mention anything about it.
I hope things are better now 
I have an aunt who is like that toward my mom
She just takes and takes with no remorse or feeling thankful. Even turns around and make her feel guilty
i went on a cross country trip with someone i considered my bestfriend. she ruined one of our excursions that SHE wanted to do, made me out to be the bad guy when i called her out for putting our safety in danger because she couldn't fully operate the car SHE wanted to rent, asked me to pay her for driving us places when i literally payed for all gas on the trip which i thought was the accepted payment when someone drives, then she essentially blamed me for her not having a good time on the trip when half the stuff that went wrong for her had nothing to do with me. suffice to say we're no longer friends but it was just so strange because it quickly became all about her own mental health, which i thought i was being accommodating to, but she didn't seem to care about MY feelings at all.
i went on a cross country trip with someone i considered my bestfriend. she ruined one of our excursions that SHE wanted to do, made me out to be the bad guy when i called her out for putting our safety in danger because she couldn't fully operate the car SHE wanted to rent, asked me to pay her for driving us places when i literally payed for all gas on the trip which i thought was the accepted payment when someone drives, then she essentially blamed me for her not having a good time on the trip when half the stuff that went wrong for her had nothing to do with me. suffice to say we're no longer friends but it was just so strange because it quickly became all about her own mental health, which i thought i was being accommodating to, but she didn't seem to care about MY feelings at all.
I found out taking a trip with someone is the best way to see the real them.
Unfortunately it could turn out dangerous if the real them is a loose canon.
Ah, I saw that reddit thread, and it's a "read with caution" thread, yo. Considering how many of the top responses are along the lines of "After he almost killed me for the second time, because I wasn't sure if the first time he almost killed me was a one-off or the start of a pattern."
For me, it's probably when I realized my brother had disowned the entire family just because the Bank of Mom and Dad dried up for him. Even though none of the rest of us had anything to do with their (very reasonable, tbh) decision, he didn't see a way to get anything out of the rest of us. It was a moment of realizing that someone who should be family only viewed me in terms of what I could get for him.
I found out taking a trip with someone is the best way to see the real them.
Unfortunately it could turn out dangerous if the real them is a loose canon.
yeah. because it was like every red flag i had overlooked and got over during the 10 years of our friendship was magnified x100. at least i've learned that its ok to outgrow people and move on. im never holding onto toxicity ever again.
Ah, I saw that reddit thread, and it's a "read with caution" thread, yo. Considering how many of the top responses are along the lines of "After he almost killed me for the second time, because I wasn't sure if the first time he almost killed me was a one-off or the start of a pattern."
For me, it's probably when I realized my brother had disowned the entire family just because the Bank of Mom and Dad dried up for him. Even though none of the rest of us had anything to do with their (very reasonable, tbh) decision, he didn't see a way to get anything out of the rest of us. It was a moment of realizing that someone who should be family only viewed me in terms of what I could get for him.
The one that really got me from that thread was when their partner said: no wonder you got raped idiot.
I think I would kill in a blind rage if someone talks to me like that
when i was 12 and my dad had recently passed away from lung cancer cuz he was a heavy smoker.
my mom was also a heavy smoker and she promised me she'd stop.
i know and was back then well aware of how addictive smoking is, so ofc i know its basically impossible to quit immediately. but one time i caught my mom smoking and i didnt say anything. like literally nothing, but run off to my room and starting crying my eyes out. like fear u kno. lose one parent to something while your other parent was actively participating in it. i was just really afraid around that time, especially because i was really young!! my mom came in my room, saw me crying and got pissed as hell and told me to get over it and kept ranting abt how it doesnt concern me etc etc bs like that and other random ranting that didn't even make sense just to make me feel bad for crying about it.
like maam i just lost my dad im grieving hello ?? 
my mom has 0 sympathy for anything and that was the day i finally realized it x.
Display Morewhen i was 12 and my dad had recently passed away from lung cancer cuz he was a heavy smoker.
my mom was also a heavy smoker and she promised me she'd stop.
i know and was back then well aware of how addictive smoking is, so ofc i know its basically impossible to quit immediately. but one time i caught my mom smoking and i didnt say anything. like literally nothing, but run off to my room and starting crying my eyes out. like fear u kno. lose one parent to something while your other parent was actively participating in it. i was just really afraid around that time, especially because i was really young!! my mom came in my room, saw me crying and got pissed as hell and told me to get over it and kept ranting abt how it doesnt concern me etc etc bs like that and other random ranting that didn't even make sense just must to make me feel bad for crying about it.
like maam i just lost my dad im grieving hello ??
my mom has 0 sympathy for anything and that was the day i finally realized it x.
That must have been frightening
When my father went to the justice behind my and my mothers' back to remove the Child Support he was giving me since I was 9 years old, when, even though I wasn't a minor anymore, I was still a student and I used the money to pay my psychiatric/psychological treatment and meds for anxiety and depression and I was unable to work that time.
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