Do you think ignoring someone you dislike instead of actively engaging them is still bullying?

  • Most people agree that actively engaging someone you already dislike and know your engagement with them will be negative is harassment and bullying.


    Recently I have seen the argument that ignoring people could also be accounted as bullying.


    Do you agree with this sentiment?


    What would be the right approach to people you dislike?


    As an example there was a student in class that people avoided working with or being grouped with at all cost. They reported the class for bullying them. After investigation it turned out that the student had condescending and rude manners which caused people to avoid them. I mean it sucks that someone's personality might affect their academic performance but I don't think forcing other students to be in a group with someone they are uncomfortable with is also the right solution.

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  • Bullying - by most definitions - is considered to include harmful intent and imbalance of power.

    The phrase is often tossed around here in a miss used way


    As such, I don’t think one person ignoring someone they dislike is bullying. I do that too to avoid unnecessary negativity.


    Being a whole group of people deciding to ignore someone who done nothing wrong might be a borderline case…?

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  • Possibly, context matters. I feel that to be even start to questioning that it's bullying, there probably has to have been some systemic agreed upon plan to ignore the person.


    But honestly, we shouldn't get too carried away with labels. Even if it isn't bullying, it can still have very emotional consequences.

  • No, I don't class it as bullying. If I don't want to interact with a person for whatever reason, it is my choice and it's not bullying. It's just avoiding them and any confrontation which I don't like. If I'm not interacting with them either verbally or non verbally, I don't see how it's bullying if I'm not having any contact with them.

  • No. If they still feel wronged then my go to is having a one on one discussion about why I dislike them, it worked in the past


    No. Why would it be considered bullying?


    If they actively decided to ostracize and ignore that student, then yes..

    If they just didn't like them and each independently ignored that student, no


    no because you're not harming the person, you're just pretending to not know their existence


    depends. if you're getting a whole other group of people to alienate someone for no reason then yeah.


    well some people firmly believe in official capacities, such as school or work, you should not ignore anyone for any reason even it you dislike them. Ignoring a person even if you have a good reason, such as their rude behavior, still negatively effects their performance as a student or employee. Their opportunities will be diminished even if they are good at their job or studies.

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  • well some people firmly believe in official capacities, such as school or work, you should not ignore anyone for any reason even it you dislike them. Ignoring a person even if you have a good reason, such as their rude behavior, still negatively effects their performance as a student or employee. Their opportunities will be diminished even if they are good at their job or studies.

    Since you posted here in AKP I think the assumption was you meant ignoring another user on this forum


    Ignoring a colleague or classmate in real life is not very professional, but minimizing interaction with toxic ditos is a survival strategy

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  • It's not my issue tbh :pepe-shrug: these people can shove their belief up their ass

    ok but you can see how it can negatively affects someone's life and well-being, right?


    I mean my strategy is to ignore the individual I dislike too but I do admit it can be harmful to them

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  • I also think there’s a vast difference between children and adults. A young child being ignored will likely have impact on their esteem and development perhaps even in the long term


    An adult who is ignored on good grounds need to gather self awareness for personal improvement. It’s not other peoples responsibility make that person grow

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  • ok but you can see how it can negatively affects someone's life and well-being, right?


    I mean my strategy is to ignore the individual I dislike too but I do admit it can be harmful to them

    I think the issue is if you are ignoring the extent that they know you are deliberately ignoring them.


    I think it's better to face the issues when they come up. Like not ignoring them when they are trying to talk to you.

  • I think the issue is if you are ignoring the extent that they know you are deliberately ignoring them.


    I think it's better to face the issues when they come up. Like not ignoring them when they are trying to talk to you.

    I mean most people dont flat out ignore like that

    but they always make excuses that they are busy or they gtg to wheeze out of interaction with that person

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  • In my concept of ignoring someone it's to either not give me a headache later, or I don't like the person/they bother me in some way and to avoid problems I simply ignore them, or to avoid myself speak sh* and make a simple blow become a tornado. Never in my life I ignored someone with the intention of harming them in some way, but then again I'm saying this as my personal life. I don't have to interact with someone I don't like just to look pretty socially when I need to put my feelings first.


    Now work or things that you need to interact with everyone I wouldn't ignore... maybe interact less or only when necessary, but I wouldn't ignore at all to be fair to everyone.

  • context always matters

    I gave an example zuzu

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  • I mean most people dont flat out ignore like that

    but they always make excuses that they are busy or they gtg to wheeze out of interaction with that person

    gtg

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