[instiz] HONESTLY ISN'T THIS THE MAIN REASON WHY WOMEN DON'T WANT KIDS!?

    They saw how much their moms suffered while giving birth to themselves... I seriously won't be able to do it, I don't even think Superman is able to go through what my mom went though. Just how did my mom do it?

    This makes me realize that men in their 40-50s have it so much easier


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    1. I don't know if men in their 40-50s have it easier, but my mom really had a hard time raising me... However I was still able to receive so much love that I want to give this same kind of love back to my kids


    2. Our dad also had it hardㅜ so I wouldn't say that men in their 40-50s have it easy. I feel like the world we live in is becoming harder and harder, and I also think that I can't enjoy the things I'm enjoying now if I had a kid. I do feel sorry but I'd feel sorry for my kids if I had one too


    3. I would feel like it's a waste for my body so I don't want to be pregnant



    4. There's that too, but I don't want to ruin my body. And I'm so busy taking care of this and that that I can't even fathom sacrificing any of the things I'm doing. I'd have to give up on too many things


    5. ㅠㅠ I don't think I can live the same life my mom lived. I don't understand how she was able to sacrifice so much to live. I'm so grateful yet so sorry


    6. I'm already too busy taking care of myself that I really don't think I'll ever be able to be pregnantㅎ


    7. I never thought of being pregnant in my life, I treasure myself too much


    8. I feel like it'll be way too painful. Having a kid means ruining your body and you also have to abandon your dreams to raise your kid. I would hate to do this. I want to live the life I want, I don't want to live for my kid


    9. Nowadays I feel like it'll be even harder to have a kidㅋㅋ My dad wasn't super patriarchal, yet I learned so much about it...


    10. Me too I don't want to live like my mom. Among my close acquaintances, there are barely anyone who has a truly harmonious household. I hope that if my mom had this strength in her, she could've lived by herself just well..ㅎ

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    child care and child bearing is always a harder burden on women and till society accepts and admit that we wont get anywhere

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    there's plenty of reasons for why someone doesn't want kids male or female - whether it's physical, mental, financial etc etc


    hell one doesn't even need a reason - just say I don't want kids and that's it!!!


    if one doesn't want kids no one should (but they do) give them shit about it

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    and that's because many of the dads are not aware of their father role, many psychologists agree on this, the dads thought their role is just a money seeker. I'm a man and I will agree if someone say men don't understand their role as a father, hell men don't understand about anything

    I think even biologically alone child bearing is harder for women

    There is nothing that can change that no matter how much men do


    Just the hormonal changes and body changes alone are a big deal

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    You'd need to have excess income and really f*cking bored (also emotionally invested in the idea of a child) as a couple to get a kid.


    Although I've heard of a way to reduce the stress of the second one -- if you give birth to the second one more than two years after the first, the elder child would, in time, be able to help out. most commonly, I've heard of 4 to 6 years among my classmates.


    (one special case: my HS friend, 3rd child, each child in the fam is 6 years apart. first child was out on parent's 18th bday!! They had some mad amounts of parent money though.. friggin rich families lol )

    at the moment I think the biggest reason is financial, raising a kid is expensive so it's not just giving birth and that's it, you need money to take the kid to the hospital, school, for food....and parents are always busy and won't have the time to see their kid grow

    Can't blame them. Most women are now seeing how men lead a secure independent life while women are dependent once they have kids. Even if they have a job childcare is considered only their responsibility. South Korea has declining population if their government financially supports mothers. More women will feel secure to raise children if they do not have to worry about finances and dependence on men.

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