friendship vs love

Quote from FeLiNa

if my best friend was aware i liked someone and decided to date them, they're not my best friend anymore.

situationally, stuff like this usually happens in middle or high school, when romantic relationships don't usually last. however, some friendships are able to endure long after high school.

so it may seem stupid to give up the crush and leave your friend, but any friend who does that obviously has weird moral standing and therefore is not a person worth being friends with.

i would find it awkward and distance myself from both of them. when they inevitably break up, the best friend will want a shoulder to cry on and it sure as hell will NOT be me. what goes around, comes around.

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whilst true in part what if you best friend also likes your crush?

what if your crush doesn't like you but your crush instead? shouldn't you be happy for your best friend?

you can't force someone to like you if they don't want to correct?

obviously what happens in middle high school isn't the be all and end of all of relationship (it can be but most of the time it's not)

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if your crush were to become your best friend's girlfriend/boyfriend and all three of you are aware that you liked her/him, would you find it too awkward to be that close to them anymore or would you keep your friendship the same?

eeeehhhhh No hard feelings for sure. It would take awhile before resettle things but not too long! I'll be back to them after a few weeks haha

Edit: real talk though If I thought I was already in a bf gf relationship and then she upped and switched sides on her own, I wouldn't keep in touch with her, but if he purposely sabotaged me or tried to break up the relationship, then he's done.

If she can't choose, I'm going to back out. no point in breaking a friendship over a emotionally tangled subject.

Logic determines most in my life, if no wrongs were done but we were competing I'd let them. There is no reason to end a solid relationship over what could be. But if either wronged me then that's a factual reason to cut; it becomes logical and then boom, done. Heartache and stressing over what could have been is meaningless if one cannot.

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whilst true in part what if you best friend also likes your crush?

what if your crush doesn't like you but your crush instead? shouldn't you be happy for your best friend?

you can't force someone to like you if they don't want to correct?

obviously what happens in middle high school isn't the be all and end of all of relationship (it can be but most of the time it's not)

if my best friends likes my crush and KNOWS i like them? boom. not friends.

and with the situation you mentioned i'm not gonna be happy with or for someone who double crossed me.

of course you can't force someone to like you. i'm just saying no matter what in this situation, choosing the crush on either side would never be okay.

This actually happened with me once lol

I eventually moved on from it and kept my friendship with both.

keep the friendship, what was not meant to be... was not meant to be

I had to swallow my feelings few times but it's better than feed yourself with "illusions" it is really important

Quote from FeLiNa

if my best friends likes my crush and KNOWS i like them? boom. not friends.

and with the situation you mentioned i'm not gonna be happy with or for someone who double crossed me.

of course you can't force someone to like you. i'm just saying no matter what in this situation, choosing the crush on either size would never be okay.

wow interesting...

I would never consider it double crossing but I guess each person is different

so then you would also accept the opposite that if you were the best friend and you knew your best friend liked a crush then you wouldn't go for or even reveal the crush to your friend since that would also be "boom not friends?"

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This actually happened with me once lol

I eventually moved on from it and kept my friendship with both.

were the you crush or the best friend or ???

keep the friend. love feels more intense in the moment and that's why when people make irrational decisions for love but friendship is more steady and reliable

Reading this thread, now I understand why my friends used to get mad at me for speaking with their crushes

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wow interesting...

I would never consider it double crossing but I guess each person is different

so then you would also accept the opposite that if you were the best friend and you knew your best friend liked a crush then you wouldn't go for or even reveal the crush to your friend since that would also be "boom not friends?"

yeah, i wouldn't even like them in the first place if my friend liked them. and even if i did i would find someone else.

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keep the friend. love feels more intense in the moment and that's why when people make irrational decisions for love but friendship is more steady and reliable

THIS!!!

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yeah, i wouldn't even like them in the first place if my friend liked them. and even if i did i would find someone else.

but the heart wants what the heart wants no?

unless you believe in brain > heart?

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but the heart wants what the heart wants no?

unless you believe in brain > heart?

this situationally (and i said this before) sounds like high school or middle school. if this was either my answer would be the same. the heart can want what it wants in high school but statistically it never lasts, therefore rendering what the heart wants essentially useless. so i would pick brain. this is 13 year old me's take on this and my current take on this.

Quote from FeLiNa

this situationally (and i said this before) sounds like high school or middle school. if this was either my answer would be the same. the heart can want what it wants in high school but statistically it never lasts, therefore rendering what the heart wants essentially useless. so i would pick brain. this is 13 year old me's take on this and my current take on this.

interesting...

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interesting...

i was traumatized at a young age, so i grew up quick

interesting indeed.