Is there a just way of deciding right or wrong with human emotion?

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    I have been thinking about this for awhile now.



    Here's just a hypothetical example

    Let's say you had an illness, one that could potentially be fatal. And someone you think is your friend, someone you think understands all the pain you're going through - and they just abandon you - like that - like nothing.


    Now the person suffering isn't innocent completely either - of course with something so serious comes some extreme mood swings and like, fear of the unknown.


    Which person is in the right? Can anyone even be in the right? Should you forgive that person? Should that person forgive you?

    What is the best course of action here - what if those two people are co-workers, and are making everything uncomfortable for the rest of people? What if one of them is so petty that they can't even talk to the other while at work. What if those people never had any interaction until recently does that change anything?



    In situations like this - is there really a right or wrong answer, is what I'm asking?


    Like I can see both sides as having some sort of validity - both people suffer, of course, but at the same time, is one person's suffering greater than the other?


    Human emotions and actions are so odd to me. Sometimes I feel it's easier to just stay by yourself and not deal with people. Stuff like this will always happen, its inevitable - because we're human.

    neither person is right and neither person is wrong...

    there are plenty of examples where in such situations but the people are married and one party can't deal with such illness and runs...


    it's easy to blame the runner as oppose to the person with the illness....since we feel pity and compassion towards the ill person...


    but a lot of times there is no right or wrong answer it depends on each person's perspectives on how they see things..

    I feel the same - I don't think that with a good ethical heart we can really distinguish the two - as the situations we face like this in our daily lives are constant - and we all have to do what is best for ourselves.


    Empathy is a strange thing.

    Well said my friend, well said.

    I would try to see things from the "ghoster's" perspective.


    The thought of losing someone that person might be very attached to might be so painful to be reminded of that s/he had to remove her or himself from the situation entirely. It's not considerate of the person with the illness, but understanding this would be reason enough to forgive.


    The thing about humans is they don't see or emotionally respond to situations in a uniform way and that's why they should have more empathy for one another.

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    I would try to see things from the "ghoster's" perspective.


    The thought of losing someone that person might be very attached to might be so painful to be reminded of that s/he had to remove her or himself from the situation entirely. It's not considerate of the person with the illness, but understanding this would be reason enough to forgive.


    The thing about humans is they don't see or emotionally respond to situations in a uniform way and that's why they should have more empathy for one another.

    That is a very valid point also. One thing about humans that I've realized in my studies and just overall day to day life is our desire to protect ourselves. Empathy is very uncommon these days - especially in the modern world with such ease of access to saying whatever we want behind a screen.


    I hope one day, we can all learn Empathy and Compassion again. I see so many situations like this in my life in my surroundings and personally.

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    I feel the same - I don't think that with a good ethical heart we can really distinguish the two - as the situations we face like this in our daily lives are constant - and we all have to do what is best for ourselves.


    Empathy is a strange thing.

    Well said my friend, well said.

    ethnics??? lol


    my friend are you a consequentialist??? (do you look at the consequences of such actions to determine right/wrong)

    or do you look at the action itself...

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    there's always way more to those kind of situations than anyone but the ones involved can know for certain.


    it's best to cut your losses and try to move forward. you can't progress if you keep looking back.

    venting at someone might feel satisfying but it doesn't resolve the underlying issues.

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    That is a very valid point also. One thing about humans that I've realized in my studies and just overall day to day life is our desire to protect ourselves. Empathy is very uncommon these days - especially in the modern world with such ease of access to saying whatever we want behind a screen.


    I hope one day, we can all learn Empathy and Compassion again. I see so many situations like this in my life in my surroundings and personally.

    How it goes, if it is meant to be, and it is, something will probably happen that forces people to learn to be that way again if they don't willingly try to.


    Hard to say, it also depends on the friend dynamic,

    There are many times where people think someone is there friend but the bond itself was never actually reciprocated so almost like offloading on a stranger (I had this happen to me a few times, these people knew nothing really about me but convinced themselves of a specific ideal of me and that we were friends, despite talking very few times)

    However if that's not the case then it's still hard to say regardless neither is right or wrong.

    Illness will always garner more pity and empathy, however there's still responsibility to be upheld if you hurt or treat people like shit while your ill, it doesn't produce the best reaction from. The person you've hurt so both views are understandable.


    Also it's easier to deal with when it's not text or online based, reading emotions through a screen is alot to do with personal interpretation, as compared to irl you tend have alot of non verbal and verbal cues to help understand each others emotions better, that's if people pay attention.

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