how can someone take justice from people who bullied them when they are young?

    Quote from nityasingh

    They were kids too. 5 to 6 years old. At that time I think kids don't know they are doing something wrong. They learn from their parents. I was bullied by three groups/people separately- two boys of my age, one girl (1-year elder than me), and a girl (2 years elder than me). I had told my parents about this and they just joked as if I am shy and I'll adapt. So I am upset with them till now for this thing.

    each to their own i guess...


    I am more of a consequentialist...that is it is the consequences of one's actions that is the basis to be judged about the rightness or wrongness of such action


    sorta like the ends justifying the means...and thus if the consequences of such actions involve (at least to someone such as yourself) great distress, pain, emotional damage I don't think i can forgive that...regardless of age...

    Bullying is a serious problem here in my country.

    Especially with kids/teenagers


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    A teenager is fully capable of knowing what is wrong or not. If they choose to bully someone, they need to be punished


    I was bullied and if those bullies are excused, i will be super mad, because it ruined my social life for years and even till to this day, i have issues.


    Stop being blind defender of idols. Victims have every right to expose them and example needs to be set. Bullies deserve it

    I got bullied when I was in 5th grade by a bunch of senior girls who didn't like when I was given the lead singer position for a competition.. so they fabricated some stuff about my FB, involved their even more older boyfriends and bullied me for weeks, one of their boyfriend ended up kicking me.. I was literally half his age that time..


    Even though I overcame and became a much bolder person after that incident.. The unfairness of it all still keeps me up at night...

    one of those bullies was recently awarded for some charity work and tbh it made me mad at first but whatever hope she changed for the good..

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    Tbh… an apology or not will not help your healing process. Especially not if the apology was forced because the person got exposed to be a former bully and probably doesn’t even remember the whole thing anymore or doesn’t think it went down like that.


    Using the energy of your pain and anger to work on yourself and become the best version of yourself is the better revenge, than trying to destroy the life of the person you think bullied you. To show that someone’s actions towards you didn’t affected your life will do much more for oneself.

    You can choose to make the best of your life or choose to let your trauma and grudge control your life. I have the feeling a lot of people choose the latter and loose themself in it.


    Seek for professional help and it might sound hard, but forgiving your bully before they apologize can help you to move on. Grudge is not your friend and it also not help you making the right decisions. In fact it reduces your life quality. And even after exposing your bully, nothing will change if you don’t work on yourself.


    Don’t let your trauma control you, don’t let the fact that you were a victim define you. Your more than that, you’re loved and nobody can take that away from you, no matter if the bully apologized or not !

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    each to their own i guess...


    I am more of a consequentialist...that is it is the consequences of one's actions that is the basis to be judged about the rightness or wrongness of such action


    sorta like the ends justifying the means...and thus if the consequences of such actions involve (at least to someone such as yourself) great distress, pain, emotional damage I don't think i can forgive that...regardless of age...

    Actually, it took me years to realize that I was bullied. That part of my childhood was completely erased due to me changing my school, also my parents continuously criticizing my shy nature. I thought maybe it's just me being shy, I am the defective piece.

    If they were present in the last school that I attended, I would have kept my grudges with them. But they weren't a part of my world.


    Thats why in cases like #metoo, bullying, harassment I try my best to be neutral because people do realize things late.

    Quote from nityasingh

    Actually, it took me years to realize that I was bullied. That part of my childhood was completely erased due to me changing my school, also my parents continuously criticizing my shy nature. I thought maybe it's just me being shy, I am the defective piece.

    If they were present in the last school that I attended, I would have kept my grudges with them. But they weren't a part of my world.


    Thats why in cases like #metoo, bullying, harassment I try my best to be neutral because people do realize things late.

    I'm neutral about those things but I really dislike the strategy aspect of how they go about those things...especially kpop companies that do things half hearted when instead they should either do damage control immediately or go all out total war...(but that's just me lol)


    you're not a defective piece...it's ok to be shy and introverted...that's perfectly normal. It's your parents who should try to understand who you are and why you are the way you are

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