I need help please

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If you're dating someone, do you like/require that person to text/chat you every single time? If the guy doesn't really like texting or chatting do you break up with him?

How old are you? You don't require them to chat with you every day, just often. Like maybe a few times a week. Also don't break up with them just because they did not chat with you

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If you're dating someone, do you like/require that person to text/chat you every single time? If the guy doesn't really like texting or chatting do you break up with him?

omg ok sorry this may be get personal and long.

That's the current issue that caused my current semi-not really but I guess-ex boyfriend and I to split up/take a break.

He felt pressured to talk to me every single day but he became very distant and it felt like he was just calling me to call me rather than actually wanting to spend time (we're long distance).

I told him I would rather we have meaningful times together or that we can just wait until our seasonal trip to see each other but he thought it was me pushing him away.

In the end we ended up not talking to each other for 2 weeks and we started talking again and we're rekindling our relationship.

So I don't require every single but if they do call or text I want it to be because they want to and not because they feel obligated to, you know?

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28, this is just a survey lol

you're old but ok

I mean, they could be busy and just don't have the time to chat. But if you know where they live, you can just hang out irl if they don't like texting.

idk.

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LMAO i dont look old and i dont feel old

you are old compared to me

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Yeah, I totally understand you.

I mean I don't require them to text/chat me every single time but I always see them online and never message me. They don't really like texting nor chatting. But wish I could know where they're at atleast, you know?

omg yes! I think part of the reason why my S/O felt like he needed to call me everyday is because at the beginning I felt like a rebound because he would still talk to his ex, and check her online status, and follow her on social media but not follow me.

So it really bothered me seeing him online and spending time with his ex but not me. So it's like at least a simple "hey I'm safe" or "hey I'm good" is the LEAST someone could do!~

I feel it depends on the person. It's best to communicate and ask each other that early on in the relationship because otherwise misunderstandings can happen. I know people who can text each other daily, while another couple texts every couple of days both being a bit more introverted and stay at home people. For me, , I'm not a big texter but if my S/O is, I would just discuss with him that he shouldn't misunderstand if I don't answer immediately but I would also do my best to respond fairly quickly.

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huh?? a few times a week? communication is THE most important thing in a relationship, if a guy talked to me once a week I'd dump him instantly

8 times a week is enough through text and 1-3 time seeing each other in person is good enough. Unless you are in a long distance relationship then more texting

I had an ex who was obsessive and wanted me to text him 24/7, tell him where I am and who I’m with and tell me I couldn’t hand out with certain people.... he’s an ex for a reason. So to answer your question, you don’t have to text them all the time, you’re allowed your freedom

communication is key to a relationship...

when i mean communication i'm not talking about texting and calling...

I'm talking about communicating to get to the root cause of the issue...if the issue is "communication" via text/phone - both parties should talk it through as to an acceptable quality/quantity of such communication is...

to one person a text day to say thinking of you is more important than 1 million texts - but to another someone might want something more and both forms are acceptable just depends on the person

People act like if you don't text someone everyday, or don't text that corny "gm" "gn" texts then your relationship is in peril. I'm comfortable with only seeing them (in person) once a week, and calling a few times a week.

I'll never understand couples that stay on ft for 9 hours till 3 am.