How to deal with mom always being away?

    My mom isn't at home most of the time cause she's always out of state for work :pepe-puddle: She just asked for a three week break and we travelled around for those days to visite my grandpa, a few friends of my parents' and to visit our old house. It was fun and I'm not really ready for her to go back to her usual work schedule. Her schedule is going out of the state on Monday morning and coming back on Friday evening, but it's not fair cause even on the weekend she's full of work. I got used to it eventually but it's becoming overwhelming. And it's obvious it affects my dad too and I hate seeing him like that even though he doesn't want to admit it affects him :pepe-just-smile:


    I'm just tired to be honest. I miss her everytime she goes away and my dad gets grumpier when she's not here. And the only free-time they have together basically consists of sleeping in the same bed, das it


    And no, videocalling isn't an option cause she either silences her phone or doesn't have wifi wherever she's staying :pepe-peek: It feels lonely to be honest I don't do much with my dad or my sister

    Quote from dummi

    Talk to her. Talk to your dad and sister, see if you can all sit down and discuss this with your mom. That's the best advice I can give

    We have kinda. She has some friends that are helping her find another job abroad but the problem is this one pays her really well and we won't have the same quality of life but I'm fine with that tbh :pepe-in-bed: Don't know about her but we've discussed this and nothing for now. Thanks for the advice though I appreciate it

    As someone whose parents are migrant workers and lived most of my childhood in my grandparents' care, I'm sending you a big hug.

    Realistically, the situation will not improve until your mom will find a job that it's not as time-consuming and so far away. Try however to explain to her that you need her help during the course of the week and ask her to make some calls or send you texts of what she's doing at the moment. And when she's at home, you can try to spend time with her by helping with her work (if you aren't doing this already).

    Best of luck. :comfort-bunny:

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    Tell her you miss her, be open with your feelings if you can. There's not much you can do to change your mom's work situation by yourself, but you can support her and remind her that she is loved and missed. Adults don't always show it but they are always thinking about their children and it will give her strength and reassurance. Make memories with her before Monday starts, and always take lots of photos. You are both there for each other and now that times are hard its important to stay open

    <3<3<3 to you and your family

    It must be hard to deal with this situation. Your mum is doing what's best for the family but I'm sure its taking a toll on you. Perhaps you could ask her to call or text inbetween her job. Text her to your hearts content about how much you love her, if your comfy with that. She might see it during her breaks and it could give her strength while also helping you vent a bit. Meanwhile you can try bonding with your family or explore hobbies and interests that you always wanted to try out either alone or with them. Don't worry I hope you'll will figure out something that'll make you'll feel happy. Till then, take care :iloveyoub:

    the best thing you can do is talk to her about how you're feeling and let her know you would like to facetime or call her every evening or some other time that fits you both. idk why she doesnt have wifi where she stays in the year of 2022 lol . its important for people growing up to have their parental figures near and available. i dont think its right to tell her to switch or quit her job, since it seems to be important for her. maybe she has a career that she worked hard for. meanwhile you can also ask your other family members to do stuff with you, idk maybe take a class in the evenings or play games so you can bond with them as well.

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