Well, I can just see this feeding weird delulu fantasies.

Like this is the ultimate Y/N come to life, right?

And man, I just don't know how I feel about this. I mean, adults should do what they want and love who they love, but this relationship started too early and on some weird terms and power dynamics. It doesn't seem healthy, but all the more power to them if that's what they want I suppose.

Winning in life? Japanese man, 47, marries his favourite idol, 20

They say age is just a number, and love has no boundaries.All of the above seem to ring true for a couple in Japan, where a 27-year age gap proved no obstacle…

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Quote from ponder

Eugh, the age gap makes me uncomfortable. She's an adult but at the same time, with me being the same age, I can't imagine...

Right? Same. She might be technically an adult, but it's barely and she doesn't really feel like an adult if her now husband is telling her parents that he will let them know where she is at all times. It feels like she is being passed from one guardian to another. And while there have been relationships with these age gaps that work, I feel like early twenties is an age that people change a lot and that you might be a completely different person by 28 than you were at 20 and want different things. Plus, there's the issue that he clearly had a fantasy view of her and how long is that going to carry them when she grows and changes into someone who is not his perfect little sweet idol?

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Oh... There was a time in my life that i was always attracted by older men like +15 years of difference, but they were handsome, this man ain't it kkkkkk

The most weird part is that they knew each other since she was 17 and even though he is this much older he still felt something for a teen girl so a big no for me.

A friend of mine dated a guy in his thirties when we were in high school. She was so flattered that he was interested in her and we all thought it was so romantic. Looking back on it now, I'm so creeped out.

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Totally creep!!! Omg, no.. this time of mine was just a few years ago, but me already adult kkkk

I think it's okay to be attracted to whoever as an adult, but I really think it's best to stay close in age at least until the late 20s cuz that's basically when we are fully formed with our adult personalities and there's no weird power dynamic issues.

Quote from dummi

when she was a fetus this man was 27

he groomed her when she was 17 and married her at 20

I feel like the industry groomed her first. Like that group seems designed to appeal to fans like this.

Quote from ponder

This seems like the beginning of a toxic relationship. I really hope she has a support system...

Me too. It's pbly not her parents since they are condoning this and also let her be in a group that seems kinda pandering to these types of fans tbh

Quote from Kitty_Saurus

Idk what it is about older guys.. I was a elementary student when I found myself attracted to a college guy.

That's more a schoolgirl crush than true attraction though right? And I hope he didn't encourage it!

Quote from jinaland

there's so many weird things in japan, I am not even surprised atp

I don't really know anything about Japan, but I've read some weird things about idol groups there.

Quote from the101

Yikes. It's certainly possible to fall in love with someone older or younger than you, but that whole they met she was 17 and he was 44, just..ayy. She didn't even have a chance to get life experience before she met him.

And that's the main thing. She didn't get a chance to grow up before getting into this. I would care about age difference if she was like 30. Then she would be a grown person and can judge the benefits, pitfulls, how it will affect her future, judge his character better etc...