My ideal bias still doesn’t exist

    lmao why are you spending so much...

    Quote from selfmate

    interesting then what is a standard visual for you and what the hell do you mean by obedient ? lol or pure of heart ?


    Quote from keaji

    I don't know if this is a joke or you really mean this. Obedient? What do you mean with that? To do everything you say?

    So is it like that: you check if they have all those three requirments and then you're interested? Are you all those three things? Or does it mean that if they are obedient, they shouldn't have rules and requirements, only you can have them?


    I hope you change you mind, otherwise you'll make someone really unhappy (if you do find someone like that and this person accept your 'rules') - if you are being serious with this... Because i hope/feel like you're just trolling.

    Korean standard visuals


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    - pure of heart: never hurt anyone and doesn't want to hurt anyone unless they deserve it


    - obedient: willing to try new things in bed, nom'sayin?

    Quote from keaji

    No, i don't know what you're sayin' :-D Obedient means 'willing to try new things in bed' in your book? I think that the one that's obedient won't really be willing to try new things in bed or will, just to please you, which is not good.

    Don't you think dynamics of good relationship should be more like: both parties have their own wishes and personalities and they should be working more on making both of them happy, not just doing what one person would want?

    Or do you want that? Because in that case your word 'obedient' is not right, you should choose new one if you so desperately need rules. Maybe adventurous (if your point is really willing to try new things in bed)?


    (pure heart is a good characteristic though :-) )

    it also means someone not challenging every little things you decide and trusts them within reasonable boundaries

    good luck with that my friend i hope you succeed in your journey to find a gf that suits your preferences and/or your ideal bias...

    comeback and let us know if or when you do

    lol, Ajussi fans are really strict, aren't they? Now you guys understand why girl groups lose male fans when they date.


    you will not find your ideal bias, cause who does not like hot bad guys when they are young? especially pretty girls. that means no kpop girl idol has a "clean past" as you wish.

    Quote from victress

    lol, Ajussi fans are really strict, aren't they? Now you guys understand why girl groups lose male fans when they date.


    you will not find your ideal bias, cause who does not like hot bad guys when they are young? especially pretty girls. that means no kpop girl idol has a "clean past" as you wish.

    what's the point of stanning if you're just going to stan the average person. it should be someone above the typical


    Jisoo never ticked the standard visual box for me but i might give her a chance

    One day you may find someone who you think fits all of these things, either in an idol or IRL. Setting people up on such a pedestal is unfair to them, and basically never works out.


    You’re limiting them, you’re limiting yourself, they have no way of living up to ideals which you have unnecessarily enforced upon them (unasked for) and the only result is disappointment and sadness all round when the patina starts to wear thin. So not worth it.


    Also, hoping for someone to be open-minded in the bedroom can be a positive thing, but expecting someone to be obedient to your every sexual whim is at best, slightly creepy and unrealistic, and tbh, really distasteful. Why would you want to deny someone you claim to love their free will? That is toxic.

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