teach me how to flirt

Well, if you make someone uncomfortable, don't do what you did again and apologize.

If whoever you flirted with is understanding, they'll forgive you and you can move on.

I guess there can be a bit of a risk of making someone uncomfortable regardless, but I do think being scared and not doing it because of fear won't get you anywhere. So sometimes you might just have to go for it, you know?

idk you don't have to listen to me tho.

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I have never flirted

atleast not in recent times

I'm pretty friendly with everyone but if I feel attracted to someone, I usually find it extremely uncomfortable to act on it

a lot of overthinking and fear

that's why dating in high school was easy

got to know people closely and things just naturally fell in place

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Yeah worrying about the worst outcomes is definitely a hindrance. I don't think it's easy to make negative thoughts go away, but it is good to try to not listen to them I suppose and do it. That would be a first step I think.

But yeah high school is a simpler time. I getcha on that.

<my zero experience ass gonna watch this thread for advice lol>

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but i need to get back in the game somehow

last few years were really hectic and I enjoyed solitude but I'm graduating seen ( hopefully a job too ) so I want to get back to connecting

I think taking baby steps could help. Just try getting into socializing regularly then go from there. If you've mostly been in solitude, then just getting used to talking to people on the regular can be good.

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sadly

im not gay

I thought u were a woman sorry

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now that you know

help

In general

Or with a date?

Try to keep in shape and maintain yourself.

Smile

Make eye contact

Look away

Make eye contact

Have an open body language

Make her laugh

Give her compliments (but not too many)

Ask her questions but not too many

Try to keep conversation light

Ask if she is single

Be open and honest

Find something u like about her

Try to find out what you have in common

Ask her out

You've have to recover your own charismatic way of flirting!

Say what you mean though (a la "I think that color looks great on you." or "Your hair looks beautiful!") rather than something slick and out of your character!

give them the old joey tribbiani

how you doin'

It has to be natural. You can't fake it. It's a major turn off when that person realises it was a persona.

Since you tend to date people you already know something about, it shouldn't be that difficult. I mean I understand your predicament. I used to think the same. I don't wanna ruin this good bond that we have by confessing what I truly feel about the person to make them uncomfortable. But what I have realised over the years is that girls really don't take it to heart as much as we think. It's just in our heads. We just think alot to not take it a step further. Like they say if you don't do it, someone else will. So it's better to make a move if you really want to. Even if it turns out otherwise, you atleast tried. That's better than regret you will feel in the future for not doing it when the time was right.

Now about flirting like I said it has to be natural. What I do is be subtle about it. I don't feel the need to show out my true feeling in a go. I do it over time. Especially when you know that person already. I mean you atleast converse and know a little bit about them, right? So show them that you are interested in them first by doing little things like remembering the things she told you she likes, showing some excitement at doing some things together, be more biased towards her than other girls or sometimes even your friends in front of her, subtly compliment her in front of her friends, etc. These small things will let her know that you atleast like her without confessing it yourself. Then when you are sure that she knows and she hasn't reciprocated, do some boyfriend moves like visiting small places together like shopping place or malls (places outside your normal sphere but still not like dating places), eating or drinking together, etc. And while doing these things when you feel the time is right just confess it buddy.

Btw if you want to flirt with a really unknown or very little known girl then first better make sure that she atleast knows your existence. Flirting with these types of people depends alot on your appearance. It is almost always about your first interaction with unknown people. You have to look good, talk well to take things further. Find common ground or a common friend who can help you be in their presence more often to make your presence known.

I also haven't dated since my breakup last year and this is the longest I haven't had a fling. So I am also planning on getting back at it but haven't come across my type of girl for some time now. Let's see.