Is being gay a choice? Genuine question

    My sister just came out as a lesbian and my parents are not happy… I didn’t know she’s gay and I don’t bother to assume anything about anyone’s sexual orientation considering it’s none of my business. My parents are convince she’s brainwashed and she’s choosing this lifestyle 🥺

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    no, your parents are ignorant. you don't just choose to be anything. that's silly

    No, it isn't a choice and she is really brave op. I hope you can support her and please, don't say things like this for her. This will hurt her a lot! Just support her and i wish you all happiness and wisdom in this moment!

    I didn't choose my sexuality. Why would I choose to be ridiculed and not accepted?

    Nope... I thought i was straight as a ruler my whole life until i met this girl and fell in love with her... I still like men but now i realize i like women too and trust me you CAN'T choose who you feel attracted to. If it was that easy everyone would aim for those who like them back and choose be straight because you know, homophobia.

    My daughter is gay and has been since she was fourteen. She never really had any interest in guys and knew then that she liked girls. I didn't know how to take it at first but now I'm in full support of her and the LGBT community. She has even dated a trans girl and has a good friend who is also trans. Being gay is not a choice especially if a person has known from an early age that they preferred the opposite sex. I still love my daughter even though she is gay and to me she is still the same inside. Gay and trans people need support, not judgement.

    It's not a choice.. If it was a choice, everyone would pick to be straight just for the sake of surviving, for the sake of not being scared for the rest of your life, for the sake of wanting to be free to express your love towards your significant other. Being straight is easy. Everyone would rather have it easy.

    It's as much of a choice as being born to your parents.

    Your parents are ignorant and this question is ignorant but I don't think you're malicious. Was it your choice to be straight, what do you think? Did you choose it? Who you get attracted to? Who you fall in love with? No. So the same applies to other people too.

    its a gut reaction. Its not brainwashing -- its not chosen, rather than automatically formed.


    for a straight guy, hooking up with another guy is ew but there aren't logical steps to explain it other than they just aren't attracted/ repelled by the thought. Therefore it isn't by choice.


    Often brainwashing requires levels of logic and repetition of that logic to ingrain a logical path that the brain can believe to have a sort of "adapter" to change the intrinsic reaction to the desired reaction. This falls apart for sexuality because there *isn't* logic. You are attracted or not. Period. There isn't logic that can explain that and therefore there isn't space to brainwash someone. There is, however, conditioning to look down on certain sexual orientations that lead to closeted people that will cause self-hate or self-censorship of their sexual orientation despite the sexual orientation holding true.


    (^^^above is from experience, and may not apply to everyone. please take a shaker of salt along for the ride.)

    i’m going to assume you’re just ignorant and so are your parents…

    sexuality is not due to brainwashing lol you’re just born that way.. you don’t pick your sexuality

    please support your sister and try to talk to your parents. she must be having a hard time if they gave her such harsh reaction

    No, no one chooses their sexuality, it's something that's inherently within them from the moment they're born

    Ask yourself, are you straight by choice or is it something that is innate to you?

    Unpopular opinion but it depends. There are some people out there who are genuinely born gay. If you have heard of the sexual dimorphic nucleus. Scientists think it is responsible for our sexual orientation.


    But also I can say it is a choice because there have been several stories of straight men ending up with their gay counterparts. You may call them bi but frankly speaking some of them never go back to dating the opposite sex. I guess they chose gay for love in a way

    I'm straight, and I don't t think being gay is a choice.


    You like who you like 🤷‍♀️. I read heaps of bl, but I'm still straight as steel.

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    Unpopular opinion but it depends. There are some people out there who are genuinely born gay. If you have heard of the sexual dimorphic nucleus. Scientists think it is responsible for our sexual orientation.


    But also I can say it is a choice because there have been several stories of straight men ending up with their gay counterparts. You may call them bi but frankly speaking some of them never go back to dating the opposite sex. I guess they chose gay for love in a way

    did you just say being bi is a choice i’m confused

    it’s not lol

    No it’s not. I hope that everything works out with you’re sister and she can be somewhere she feels welcomed and accepted

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