[TW: domestic abuse mentioned] I'm having trust issues right now

Yeahh. I think the most important thing in regards to that is to have a good support system that you can go to when you have problems and be willing to go get help when needed.

Like, if you're more isolated, it's harder to get help.

And of course, try to leave when you start to notice red flags.

so is it because of the article you read or did something actually happen to you ? (you don't need to answer that if you don't want to )

If it's because of the article, well things like that happen but then other sorts of things happen too, we never know in life, you can get run over by car, there can be a robbery at bank, you can get stabbed on the streets but it doesn't mean you'll never walk on streets again or will be afraid to go to bank right ?

Just make sure to notice red flags before diving into a relationship but yeah people change we can't teally predict about what will happen in future

I've got severe trust issues because of my family situation but at the end of the day, it will only hurt me if I let myself to be immersed by them

I've already turned down a guy who may be the love of my life because of these issues...uhm so that happens too

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Nah, it was just because of the article.

Don't focus on the bad then anything could happen anytime, but if it holds us back from living our lifes, we might end up alone and bitter

I can unfortunately speak from experience with abusive partners. I was with an absuive guy in my early 20s, physically and verbally. The biggest things that helped me whole in that situation was my friends. They helped me get the right resources to get out of that mess.

If you’re thinking about dating someone or even interested in them, get your friends, family, whoever’s opinion on them first. One of my friends said this guy seemed like an whole but I didn’t listen to her. She saw red flags in him that I missed.

For those that don’t have anyone in their personal lives they can go to they’re are plenty of online resources, phone and text lines, forums, etc that can help point you in the right direction should you ever find yourself in that situation.

I would say really find out about a person before you get married to him or her...

like actually take something equivalent of pre marital counselling

find out what makes your partner tik...and have a good talk with them about all aspects of marriage...

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this ^^^

regardless of how long/well you guys know each other, you should always have these discussions. people may think oh this person won't be like that, but honestly, there's no guarantee until you hear it from them yourself. and even then you have to decide whether or not to trust that they're being honest with you.

I made sure of that before I married my wife...

it's just communication communication communication and on all topics

finances/children/lifestyle/family/unexpected events/where one lives/work/separation of home duties etc etc