Why do people say they don't care about looks when most only care about that?

Ig people just want to sound really good?

Hypocrisy?

In this world being pretty matters, no matter where your from, everyone wants to be pretty and admire other pretty people. Looks matter, pretty privilege exists.

the world is nicer when you look better

true

i learnt this myself

you yourself are nicer to yourself when you realize you look better

when people say they dont care about looks, i assume they mean they dont consciously judge by looks or dont prioritize it rather than that they place everyone on an equal level of attractiveness

Because it's hard to admit that all of us might be superficial fckers.

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I relate to this. I sometimes despise myself and looks r a big part of it.

i have grown way more confident and learnt to appreciate myself with time

appearance wise too

i think the easiest way to go about it is, realize where you really stand according to your OWN taste

figure out what you think are the flaws you find in your appearance, and what are the positives you find in your appearance

calmly make yourself accept that you cannot magically remove your flaws

trying to hide them or change them will only make you more insecure

rather, you can always make an effort to make your positive traits stand out and be their best

that way, you'll know what makes you special or attractive in your own way and you'll be able to present yourself better as well as be confident in public

oh and confidence itself increases attractiveness by SO much

Everyone cares about looks as it's the first thing you notice upon meeting anyone for the first time hence it's the real first impression you get about them, but not many choose to overcome this first impression and actually learn about the person

Looks matter to many people even though they say they don't care. they probably say it to look good

I don’t care about looks, it’s just superficial. It’s personality that counts.

I ain’t tryna have some hot ass dude abuse me and be fcking rude to me every fcking day, so I need somebody that’s respectful I don’t need no wack ass rat talking sht to me everyday with a bad temper for the rest of my life. If I’m gonna be with someone for the rest of my life and they’re good looking but with a roachass attitude I don’t need you I’m gonna ghost your ass and looks don’t even last forever unless you get some Hightech plastic surgery so I’d rather have someone with a good heart and good attitude than a good looks and bad attitude, but if they have good looks and a good heart than okay that’s fine, just be respectful to me that’s all I’m fcking asking for I don’t need to be talked sht to everyday.

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Oh u mean like that.

So u would date someone who u aren't attracted to but is a gem of a person?

My partner isn’t the most handsome man but he is wonderful

Looks matter, I won't deny that. However, for some people (including myself) looks aren't a determining factor when I evaluate someone long term. And when it comes to dating, I'd rather date someone with a good personality that is deemed ugly by society's standards than the hottest person who treats me or other people like trash. Because more than anything, I can't stand people who treat others badly.

I've been beating myself up because I don't feel like I'm pretty enough but the truth is that, we can CHOOSE what is important to us. If we value being pretty or good looking above everything else, what kind of life is that??

True I guess. There have been Studies to show that people tend to be nicer or helpful to someone if they are physically attractive.

However pretty or not if you're a prick, you're just a prick.

that's only if you have actual standards