Posts by xwhisperx

  • Do you think kids should be taught about Sexuality & Gender as soon as they are old enough to understand? (Poll)

    Yes but to a degree. Teaching kids from 5 to 10 you need to adjust to their understanding of what sex is as well as relationships, nothing too detailed and age appropriate. It also depends on the curiosity and mental Maturity of the child as some will start to ask questions earlier than others.


    With really young children this is simple done indirectly through conversation or reading books that have same sex couples in stories and talking about their families.


    Gender and in depth sexuality (usually comes under general sex education) talks should become more detailed with the onset of puberty (age 10+) as it would be more revelant to their current experiences and will help guide them through it.


    Parents have the opportunities to opped out of sex education in general aleast in the area I work, so its not like its mandatory.


    Considering the abuse of young children below 5 has gone up (especially sexual abuse), certain things do need to be discussed with young children (once they can understand and converse age 3+) as some dont understand or unaware when something is happening to them but it has to be age appropriate.

  • when was the last time you felt butterflies for someone?

    It happens now again when I interact with my sons father, (Its a complicated situation cause I just want to be alone cause I'm just very solitary but we are in love with each other) we have love for each other and treat each other in semi romantic way (him more so than me I'm the stoic one) but for almost 15 years for someone to be that anamoured with me even after watching me struggle with life, have his kid, get a little chubby amongst other things.. Makes me feel a little flutter here and there... (and elsewhere... But I have great self control lol)

  • should people stop exaggeration of the whole Asians look younger than their age?

    I think it's probably to do with what we expect someone to look like at certain, ages which is vague in itself like...

    I've seen grown people look like teenagers and teenagers look like early twenties are "suppose to" look, and then any thing above 50 or 60 you expect to be more weathered.

    So even though there's no real standard there seem to be expectations of what certain ages should look like.


    As for the stereotype.... Well considering I'm half black half Asian, I get both the black dont crack and the asian don't raisin, which I adhere to because I do look younger than a lot of women in there early 30's. In my case it's just genetic lottery rather that skin care and all that stuff cause I'm quite ridiculously low maintence.


    However in order to dispel such a stereotype you kinda gave to round up every asian person and compare their looks with other in their age bracket, sounds long tbh but there will always be who don't fit this stereootype regardless.

    Although the weird thing about the asians I've encountered as well as my own family.... At like 50 they start to age faster (or its start to show more) not sure why its kinda a weird observation on my part..


    My ramblings lol I'm sure there some sort of point in them somewhere.

  • Have you guys ever felt bad for wishing death on somebody?

    I've never wished death on someone seriously especially family tbh (besides convicted serial pedophiles and rapists) I think if I were to I'd probably mean it as they would have to do the most desipicable things.


    I struggled with various abuse growing up but I always internalised my hurt and turned it on myself rather then others, so wishing death was never a thing for me more so I'd just block them out and push ahead to not make anything worse really.


    Although I tend to say things like 'maybe your mother should of swallowed' or 'I'm guessing you were an accident or abortion wasn't on the cards' if I meet someone horrible.

    Which can be quite hurtful I suppose.

  • RE: DO YOU THINK THERE ARE ROMANTIC COUPLES AMONG THE USERS HERE ?

    I mean over the years they have been many couples that have met here, and then proceeded to meet in real life. I don't know if any are still together as most of them aren't here anymore and left a while ago.

    So it's not something that doesn't happen, it just not anyone's business unless they're willing to go public with it. Although if they break up with makes it awkward for users that are friends of both, that's happened before here too.

  • Fight, flight or freeze?

    From the situations I've been in, it varies between fight and flight, majority being fight.

    Due to where I grew up, I learnt to assess my surroundings much quicker and the risk required with either action.

    Although I've learnt to restrain my fight response, Like if someone I know tries to scare me as a prank, I have to hold back every ounce of myself not to go deck the person automatically, so it looks weird because my body looks awkward cause I catch my arm in mid motion when it happens.

  • The photoshoot that almost got Min Hee Jin canceled for good in Korea, a case of male gaze applied to boygroup

    This was my least likeable of all the concept pics they've done tbh, they made me uncomfortable (although I generally don't like a lot of skin anyway) onew, key and jonghyun were bearable, but minho and taemins were not for me, their ages played as factor in that as well despite me being the same age as onew, I was still seeing taemin as a baby (it took me till criminal to see him as grown man, so you can imagine how weird it was seeing his concept pics lol)

    I remember seeing them when they were released and I couldn't figure out who they're target audience was, as it definitely was not me lol

  • Do you cross your legs when you sit?

    As in crossed leg position like a pretzel or like one leg over the other.

    Cause I can't do the latter when I sit cause thick thighs and I've always sat 'boyish' like legs spread, crossing my legs just feels uncomfortable.


    I do the former on the sofa, but switch so the one leg is tucked under the other while its normal, as when I sit crossed legged I automatically sit up straight.. Which hurts after a bit.

  • Your opinion on Kids?

    Probably generally only the beings i can't be angry with and actually care about, cause of the understanding that anything fucked up they learn is majority from the world and the adults around them.

    I have my own child and was lucky to have a easy pregnancy and labour and be perfectly fine, so I'm bias due to personal experience.

    plus I work with kids for a living cause its what I'm good at naturally and Im doing my part so we don't have more fucked up teens and adults in the world or online.

  • do you care about income

    Not particularly, the finances/income of someone else has ever really come into play, mainly because I've always been financially independent and pay for myself.

    however its important that they can provide for themselves generally but that doesn't necessarily mean a high income more so smart with their money and finances do become important in a long term relationship or marriage.


    I'm generally low maintenence as a person, so even if I was the type to dependent on a partner for money it wouldnt require much.