Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says ‘Come on, one drink!’ You say ‘no thanks.’ Later, he brings you a soda. ‘I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.’ For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your ‘no.’ If you say ‘Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks’ and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.
The art of saying "NO"
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Preach!
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Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says ‘Come on, one drink!’ You say ‘no thanks.’ Later, he brings you a soda. ‘I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.’ For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your ‘no.’ If you say ‘Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks’ and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.
You are really good at threads!
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So... what do you want to drink?
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So... what do you want to drink?
Margarita plz
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You are really good at threads!
johnny encouraged us to make thread that should aim intelligent discussion
So... what do you want to drink?
surprise me
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BEAT HIS AZZ
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The pics looks like me
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Louder for the a**holes in the back plz
this is super annoying. whether it be a drink or a gift, they just don't seem to understand the word no
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The pics looks like me
ohhh you're pretty
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Louder for the a**holes in the back plz
this is super annoying. whether it be a drink or a gift, they just don't seem to understand the word no
Also when they asked for your number
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Also when they asked for your number
yes and then they get all pissed when you say no, again
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Also when they asked for your number
yes and then they get all pissed when you say no, again
How popular are you both??
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ohhh you're pretty
I mean the big NO in my face
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I mean the big NO in my face
oh you mean on your dp LOL
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How popular are you both??
I wouldn't say that i was popular, just that i'm cute, short, *cough* well endowed. (the last part along attracts them like moths to a light ) guys seem to think that it means come up and bug the shit out of me. and they don't give in, they just keep on asking. that is until i tell them how old i am, then they run for the hills and sometimes they don't so i just walk away, or kick them in the nuts if i have to
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So... what do you want to drink?
tea of course
pu er and chrysanthemum are really good
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i am introvert tho i don't go to partys so can't relate
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you need a pfp, Ajôsi.
thank you for you suggestion my friend but...never nope no...
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and then they say ur arrogant if u wont respond to their flirting
or you're a prude
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