do most ppl settle down with whatever they can get

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    Sometimes it's not even low self esteem or insecurity, time plays a big part.


    Have you watch those Wong Kar Wai movies: IN THE MOOD FOR LOVE and 2046? They explain it better than I can.

    Great reference


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    Thats something I have been wondering about for quite some time already.

    My parents are together just out of fear of being alone and because thats what they are used to for the past 25 years or so. They dont have many similarities, they dont really value the same stuff, their world view is completely different most of the time and I can really see that they dont understand each other even after 25 years. And as harsh as it sounds, they dont actually love each other, not anymore at least.

    2 of my best friends have the same issue with their boyfriends basically, just in a more toned down way. The amount of times they wanted to break up and then didnt...I dont even count anymore. Are they together with people they can see a future with? According to their own words, absolutely not. Why are they still together? I dont know. I assume because they dont want to be alone.


    The more I observe people, the more I have the feeling that most people actually arent able to live with themselves.

    I definitely have people questioning if everything is right with me, why I am always solo, why I dont settle down with anyone...

    All those whys.

    I have no problem with myself. I have no problem with being with myself. I was born with just myself and I will die alone. Thats how I see it. And no one else is responsible for my happiness than me first and foremost.

    If I would take someone into my life, that would require someone who I genuinely want to share my life with. That person has to enrich my life in some way, otherwise I think I would be better off on my own or nah? It does not need to be perfect, I just need it to be a fitting person. I didnt find someone like that yet and I guess thats okay. If I never find someone like that, I think that would be okay too.

    I have a very similar mindset with friends and just generally people in my life. If we dont fit together and a relationship goes nowhere, then I don't have a problem to go on on my own.

    Does someone also feel like that?

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    Changed the title of the thread from “do most ppl settle down what whatever they can get” to “do most ppl settle down with whatever they can get”.

    so what topics do your friends and mum talk with their partner? it sounds awkward...


    my ex classmate LOVES JACKSON SO MUCH .her bf has no similarity with jackson at all lmao.i think she just settle down with him yet he always give her some presents lolol


    i am alright being alone too tho i need to vent most of the time .i generally dislike / hate humans :angryr::sleepyr:


    my biggest ambition is to move to somewhere quiet and live alone

    Honestly, I guess thex fight more than they talk about anything.

    Just yesterday my friend send me a shitton of her texts and voice messages with her boyfriend because shes mad he forgot her and didnt come to their meeting and played games with a shitty friend of hers. And now shes paranoid that her friend will sleep with her boyfriend and shit like that. And im just like, dude you are friends with someone you think is able to sleep with your boyfriend and you are together with a dude who forgets you and plays overwatch with someone else and you cant even trust him? Shit this stresses me out so much, because it doesnt even make sense to me?????!!!! Who needs people like that? And Im actually genuinely tured if mediating between people and be associated with things like that without even asking. Shit people realls dont make sense. How are people able to cling to trash like that idk.


    Sometimes I want to live somewhere in a house by the lake with a raccoon because people make me tired too.

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    Honestly, I guess thex fight more than they talk about anything.

    Just yesterday my friend send me a shitton of her texts and voice messages with her boyfriend because shes mad he forgot her and didnt come to their meeting and played games with a shitty friend of hers. And now shes paranoid that her friend will sleep with her boyfriend and shit like that. And im just like, dude you are friends with someone you think is able to sleep with your boyfriend and you are together with a dude who forgets you and plays overwatch with someone else and you cant even trust him? Shit this stresses me out so much, because it doesnt even make sense to me?????!!!! Who needs people like that? And Im actually genuinely tured if mediating between people and be associated with things like that without even asking. Shit people realls dont make sense. How are people able to cling to trash like that idk.


    Sometimes I want to live somewhere in a house by the lake with a raccoon because people make me tired too.

    insecurity is hella real .that 's why most ppl prefer dating unattractive ppl out of fear that their partner would run away.i used to think that everyone wants true love but reality is terrible lmao


    i used to deal with 'garbage ' issue like that out of 'love' .now thank god that i dont like anyone except seungwoo .he does not give me stress anyway


    do inform me the awesome place when u move :teeheek:

    Not sure if settling is the right word. As you grow older you get more perspective and life experiences and your priorities kinda change. For example, it is not a huge priority that the person you want to marry must have xx quality whereas the younger version of yourself might have held that to a higher importance.


    Anyway, if you want to wait for someone to meet your standard that's up to you. A lot of people don't want to wait. Some goals like having biological children have a time limit. You can't wait for years to have children as both egg and sperm quality decreases as you age. A lot of people want to have biological kids.

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    Not sure if settling is the right word. As you grow older you get more perspective and life experiences and your priorities kinda change. For example, it is not a huge priority that the person you want to marry must have xx quality whereas the younger version of yourself might have held that to a higher importance.


    Anyway, if you want to wait for someone to meet your standard that's up to you. A lot of people don't want to wait. Some goals like having biological children have a time limit. You can't wait for years to have children as both egg and sperm quality decreases as you age. A lot of people want to have biological kids.

    just to have kids so u stuck with someone whom u dont like


    very good :angryr:

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