Unsolicited help/advice

i just ignore unless they have a really good point

loathe is such a strong word. also its up to you to draw the line when they are forcing such things

I guess it would depend on the type of advice and the intention behind it.

I know someone (work colleague) who gives unsolicited advice constantly. Not to help others, but in an effort to assert dominance and prove how much better he is than his female colleagues. He always makes sure to let the boss know that he "had to" help colleague X "again" afterwards and that he really can't keep doing everyone else's work on top of his own, so his intentions are pretty clear.

That is never OK and all of us avoid him at this point. I really do loathe that kind of "advice".

But if somebody approached me in private and was like, hey, I overheard that you're struggling with xyz in your new project, and I encountered the same problem a few months ago, would you like me to give you some pointers so you don't end up wasting as much time as I did?

Then I'd be very grateful.

In my private life... It really depends. My partner once tried to explain to me how to "efficiently" load the dish washer, while I was in a hurry. The look I gave him, paired with the question of "would you like to demonstrate?" had him scuttling back to the sofa within seconds and the matter was never brought up again.

I do have someone like that in my life. She is kind of my mentor and I used to take her advices seriously but it's getting too annoying now. Though she is a wonderful person with no malice in her heart but she's becoming too dominating in my life, telling me what I should be doing all the time, pushing me into places where I don't want to be, getting offended if I don't do what she wants me to do, acting like she knows what's best for me whole time. And she's not a family but a colleague of mine.

I personally step back to intuitively see what is the value of the advice. From the bigger picture, and forward looking, it could be a message or someone with the intent of putting you "on game".