Being a decent person is not enough to be in a relationship

    Obviously looks come first, and part of that is based on a person’s visual preference.


    But let’s say an average looking person and they have a decent personality, that will just make them get friends but not establish a deeper connection. They need to be more daring and open up (hobbies, passions, lust, etc) and if the two people click then it’s easy to form a relationship.


    Incels think there’s a formula and they try different strategies which obviously don’t work, then get pissed off. Like incel stalker Josh who thinks following Nayeon on airplanes will get her to love him. You also need to be realistic, no celebrity will go for a random incel. If they were actually very good looking like a male model then they wouldn’t be an incel.

    well that's obvious. if you're a decent person but not attractive, i'll view you as a friend. there needs to be an attraction. and i'm attracted to a person's looks, vibe AND personality combined. You need all 3.

    everyone says that personality matters, but who wants to date someone ugly? I guess people would say "that's mean" but it's really not. There's a lot of guys around me who have good personalities, but there not good looking so I would never be in a relationship with them. There is no code or way to get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Incels have some type of problem, men who blame women for the reason they can't get laid, no idiot, your just average and boring.

    There’s more to a relationship than being good looking. My partner isn’t the most handsome man on Earth but he is a decent man and we’ve been together twenty years. I wouldn’t stay with him if he wasn’t. You could have movie star looks but be an arsehole. If I had to choose, I know what I’d have. Looks mean nothing imo.

    Quote from ellenote

    everyone says that personality matters, but who wants to date someone ugly? I guess people would say "that's mean" but it's really not. There's a lot of guys around me who have good personalities, but there not good looking so I would never be in a relationship with them. There is no code or way to get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Incels have some type of problem, men who blame women for the reason they can't get laid, no idiot, your just average and boring.

    But just to note, once you start to fall for someone, even those at first 'ugly' features start becoming pretty or handsome. Of course on the surface, it's reasonable to say that but it's a lot more different if you're already talking to the person and begin to fall for them. You start to see their charms.

    Quote from Elf_lover

    There’s more to a relationship than being good looking. My partner isn’t the most handsome man on Earth but he is a decent man and we’ve been together twenty years. I wouldn’t stay with him if he wasn’t. You could have movie star looks but be an arsehole. If I had to choose, I know what I’d have. Looks mean nothing imo.

    Who else are you seeing besides your partner

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