What's wrong with having standards?

There's a large pushback to aesthetic standards in particular in modern Western thinking.

It took the "don't be exceedingly superficial"good sense mantra, combined it with a healthy dose if mass insecurity and went full bore the other way.

It's an unrealistic overcompensation.

We are visual beings. And considering aesthetics will always be a factor, especially in youthful pairings.

One should try not to discount other considerations. But also shouldn't feel ashamed for enjoying and gravitating to those they find attractive, even superficially.

Where people run into trouble is when they have standards that are unrealistic to their own offerings. If they aren't honest about what they bring to the table whether aesthetically or otherwise and expect a standard in a partner they themselves don't match.