Help! Did I Get Rejected?

So I confessed to my coworker on Monday. I pulled her aside and said "OK maybe I have a crush on you,maybe you knew it already, maybe you didn't" and she smiled and said "Oh I didn't know, so you just had to get that out?". Then I said "we'll I wrote you a letter".I made the mistake of telling her when she was busy, because then she got called on her walkie to come to the office right at that moment(work at a kids clinic) . She ran out the room, because she actually was busy. That was the only time a lot of people weren't at work yet, so I thought the time was now. I was so confused. "Why did she ran out the room?/did I just make the worst mistake ever?" So through out the day we didn't speak to each other. So towards the end of the day I was with my last client, and she came in the room and asked to read my letter. So I said " oh so now you want to come back" playfully. She said she was just really busy(to be fair she was actually put on 2 kids at time due to a callout). I was happy! I was just overthinking thing like always. I told her I couldn't read it because it was cringey(I also said she made me realize that I like girls). So she said "nope I'm read it!" and we playfully fought over. She read it and said it was very sweet. I couldn't make eye contact so I just turned to the wall and said thank you. She laughed and said "well talk later" and left for the day. I felt so relieved and that gave me hope maybe she'll say yes. So boom, it's the next day and we don't say anything to each other. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to badger her. When you confess your supposed to give them time right? I started over thinking "why didn't she say anything to me?/ maybe she's just busy again". Now next day Wednesday, she greets my client good morning( she always likes greeting the kids), so I'm nervous and ask "are we still going to have that talk? " and she said yes but she wasn't smiling. I guess that's not a big deal, but it made me think "Am I annoying her". It kinda made me a bit "mad/disappointed" that we haven't talked much. If she didn't like me,why not just tell instead of this awkwardness going on. I couldn't work up any words when she was around, because I confused what was going on. I know there's a risk when asking a coworker out, but I didn't think we would become like this.So Thursday comes and we only greeted each other good morning. I started to use hope, "I should've never confess, All I did was make things awkward". It's Friday now, and I say to myself if she doesn't bring it up she clearly doesn't like me. We only said hello and goodbye to each other today. What did I do wrong? Did I just read in to things Monday? Should I have said something the momentthis silence began? Should I take this silence as a rejection or work up the courage to clear things up Monday.

Quote from xx-jenn-xx

Hey, I get why you’re overthinking, but it really sounds like she’s just been busy. She did say you’d talk later, so try not to pressure it—she might just need time to process. If she’s interested, she’ll bring it up when she can. If not, the silence might be her way of letting you down gently. Either way, don’t be too hard on yourself. You took a brave step, and that’s something to be proud of.

Ok, thank you. Our times and client schedules do not really match up anymore. Also she is part of junior management at the job, so she does have more responsibilities than me. I acknowledge that she is busy, but would it be too much to ask for clarity on Monday? I just don't want it to be awkward anymore even if she does say no. Here I go over thinking again

I want to respect her time and not annoy her, but just how long do I have to wait for an answer. Patience is definitely something I struggle with.

Quote from Owned_by_Irene

if she's avoiding you, move on

Quote from xx-jenn-xx

Yeah, I get why this is frustrating. Waiting for an answer when you just want clarity is tough. Since she’s got more responsibilities and your schedules don’t match up, she might not have had the time to really sit with everything yet.

I think asking on Monday is fine as long as you keep it casual—like, “Hey, I just wanted to check in whenever you have a moment.” That way, you’re giving her space while also making it clear you’d like to wrap this up.

Patience isn’t easy, but you’re being respectful about it. No matter what happens, at least you’ll have your answer. If she doesn't check in with you after you ask her Monday, then it's best you move on, that would be a clear answer to me.

Surprised this day in age you just don't give her a cell phone number and text each other lol

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Quote from CaraFIMIE

I wouldn't say she rejected you. Just find some time where she is less busy and available to talk. When you do get that chance, don't ask her for her response immediately. Try to ease your way into that topic which may actually help you gain more understanding as to how exactly she feels.

I don't have her number, be we have a group work chat on a app. She actually just sent me a message privately. Basically she didn't mean to avoid me, she was actually busy. She's thankful, but doesn't feel the same way, but doesn't want things to be awkward anymore either. Well at least I was brave for once lol. It doesn't really hurt since I kinda guess it would happen this way. I just wanted things to go back to normal.