[teens stories] MY BOYFRIEND THINKS THAT I'M SO F*CKING PRETTY..;

FeLiNa and Kataphract it’s nice that you want to bring awareness to this subject, but you also have to be more precise and careful with the information.

Felina I saw the Insta post you shared in here and in the comments you had many also mentioning that not every sign is also a sign of lovebombing when it’s not a combination of several other signs. This is also what a therapist or psychologist will tell you. It is also important to mention that this behavior is more likely a red flag if it happens pretty early on in the relationship.

Using lovebombing to gain something is often the work of a Narcissist. And they will say something to hurt you not long after they gained your trust or emotional attachment to them. Many who do this on the other hand don’t even know they are doing it, so no malicious intent behind it. They do so cause they don’t really know how to express their feelings in a specific moment and end up with grand gestures or exaggerated praise. So you can’t make it an absolute thing. It’s really a case to case scenario and often only important to focus on if you might be dealing with a Narcissist where lovebombing is one of many other signs/symptoms that have to occur in a relationship.

And lastly you guys seem to have ignored the part where she states that she doesn’t think she is pretty and she would brag about it herself if she thought she was. This was the premise behind the discomfort of her bf behavior towards her. Which is another psychological problem you guys ignored because you were focused on the lovebombing possibility and didn’t notice that the issue might be somewhere else. People with a low self esteem tend to think they aren’t worthy of love or compliments, they think they don’t deserve it and therefore they tend to question the affection shown by their partner or anyone else. They might view compliments or praise as another way of trying to mock them cause they don’t believe it’s true or could be true because they feel extremely insecure. This often leads to their partners trying to push that by excessive praise on how good they are or how pretty they look etc. which could appear as lovebombing for outsiders, while others would break up with them.

It’s one thing to learn about a specific subject and another to fully research it. Unfortunately when it comes to this many don’t do that and just leave with posting the “signs” without further explanation. This has led people who are already very insecure questions their bf/gf if this is just normal affection or lovebombing. Seriously it’s already hard for this Gen to have proper functioning relationships because apparently they have to be aware of so many things and everything could be the sign of something toxic.