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Actually, it hasn't even been 3 months since we got married. We got married at the beginning of January, so it's been about two and a half months...
After living together, I realized my husband eats so much, it's overwhelming. It's not just that, it makes me lose interest in food, I'm repulsed, and this even makes me dislike him.
When I try to eat ramyun, he says, "Just one bite," but ends up eating more than half.
When I put an egg in the ramen for myself, he eats it. So, I started adding two eggs and boiled it, but he took both eggs with the ladle and ate them ㅠㅠ
When we buy a two-for-one drink deal, he drinks the whole bottle, and when we eat together, he eats so fast. He grabs two or three pieces of rolled egg in one bite and chews like a pig, and honestly, it's so unpleasant to watch ㅠㅠ
Recently, he said he saw someone eating two burgers stacked together online... So, he ordered three burgers: one for me and stacked two together, leaving out one bun, and ate them so quickly. Then, he grabbed a handful of fries and chugged my cola too ㅠㅠ Ugh...
This leads to a huge food cost too. Every time we order food, he needs a large size and 2-3 sides, and even if I cook a pot of soup, he eats the whole thing in one meal...
For frozen dumplings, he just tears the top open and heats the entire bag in the microwave... He really eats like a pig.
We've fought many times about him not touching my food and eating moderately when we eat together, but honestly, even while fighting, I feel really lost.
I say things like, “If I put two eggs in the ramyun, you should each eat one! Why did you eat both eggs!?” But while saying that, I started feeling ridiculous like, "What am I even saying?" and just feel so disappointed and laugh bitterly. It's honestly a wake-up call ㅠㅠㅠ
When we were dating, he didn't eat this much. So how can the food expenses be this crazy? He eats everything I buy in a day or two. When I asked about it, he said, when we were dating, he was hungry, ate, and then ate again on his way home. He said if he ate too much, I would hate it.
But now that we're married, he says he's showing me his true, comfortable self.
He argues, “You used to wear makeup to look good for me when we were dating, but now you don't wear makeup much at home. You're just being comfortable, and I love that side of you. Why can't you love me being comfortable too?” ㅠㅠ
It's crazy that he thinks this is the same. I really can't communicate with him.
Our food expenses for a month are over 1 million won (~$690), and he alone eats over 850,000 won (~580) of it...
I really feel like there's no solution if we continue living together. ㅠㅠㅠ
The cost of eating a lot is one thing, but I hate his lack of consideration, and it visually disgusts me.
He'll open a bag of Oreos or Pocky, which has multiple pieces, and then eat the whole thing in one bite, and when I see that, it's just revolting to me, as a husband and as a human being.
Recently, I was going to give a gift to a coworker I'm grateful to and bought a cookie set at the department store. I told him not to eat it because I was going to take it tomorrow, but even though he bought his own, he ate my gift, and by the time I got to it, he had eaten it all. I was really upset.
When I told him I wanted a divorce, he said, "How can you divorce over something I can't change." If I go for a lawsuit, should I tell the lawyer, “My husband eats too much and is always greedy for my food..."? I feel so lost about it ㅠㅠ
I never thought love would fade for such reasons, but now I can't even stand looking at him.
We don't even talk at home anymore, and I avoid leaving my room because I can't stand him ㅠㅠ
Honestly, at this point, it feels like a marriage scam, and I'm so upset. I posted about it on a local mom cafe, but people kept suggesting I go to a divorce counseling camp, saying there could be a reason for it, so I deleted the post.
Is there anyone like me?
Has anyone gotten a divorce for a reason like this after only 3 months... ㅠㅠ
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1. [+515, -5]
It’s a matter of consideration. People may think that it's about her disliking him eating too much, then you might think the problem is with the wife, but there's a more important issue than the amount of food. When you both should eat one each, but he eats it all by himself, and even though there's something meant for a gift, he still opens it and eats it, this shows a lack of respect for his wife. It's just that his selfish behavior makes you lose affection for him, and his eating habits start to look ugly too.
2. [+401, -7]
Do you want to live seeing him stealing your kid's baby food and snacks later on? Or do you want to get a divorce now?
3. [+329, -5]
There are more people who get divorced over this issue than you think. You can't fix this, just escape as soon as you can ㅠㅠ
4. [+327, -4]
I can feel the disgust just from the post. How can OP see this in front of her eyes...
5. [+250, -4]
He's a greedy individual who only thinks about his own stomach, the only solution is a quick divorce. Otherwise, once you have a child, they'll steal the kid's food too and eat it all
