Posts by Blaenavon9

    I lost my virginity literally last year, I was 26 - and my boyfriend lost his at 13 to an older cousin.


    I kinda find his sex life extremely scandalous and am jealous about his having had so many sex partners because I've always felt super conscious about being a late bloomer and then I had to fall for this guy. Your average Joe with a 15 or so body count, I could deal, but a Lothario with a 25-30 count, can't help but feel ?(

    Relationships like this can work but personally, I think compatibility is really important - finding a middle ground, whilst making sure you're both happy. To hear you feel gloomy and resentful is kinda alarming for me, that's not how you should feel towards your significant other. Sounds like eventually you'll find it far too exhausting to be with him and he'll end up getting bored with you.

    I worry about that so much ;(

    is it easy? i feel like they have it the same as us if not worse. they have rlly busy schedules that make it hard to set aside time for relationships and they have to keep them hidden, even just friendships. a lot of idols dont get to experience high school like we do, so its hard to stay close with friends. i know some idols who dont rlly have that many friends in the industry either. ig they have an advantage with drugs, since they have more money than us. and drugs might be used more often to cope with mental health issues or boredom from their careers. drugs are pretty accessible in my community tho, idk about you.

    I don't actually mean the ones who have it made (or idols) - just musicians in general


    Where i live, people take up music (djs, rappers and cover artists especially) only because they want to experience the glamour of easy money, sex and drugs. Many are from underprivileged backgrounds and aren't even good at what they do, but have no problem pulling girls, eating at the best places, and looking like rich kids even though they technically aren't.

    What are the struggles of dating someone who is not like you??


    For example, I'm the most painfully introverted person you'll meet and my boyfriend is like this really popular guy who has a nervous breakdown every time he has to be alone for 20 minutes


    Struggle #1

    As a musician he's highly motivated, if he thinks up a song today morning, he's already finished recording it by the end of the day, and when he's not working on his creative output he's brainstorming on the business end of things.


    Me, on the other hand, write one short story a year and i have no motivation to get people to read it. I'm mostly just wallowing in my misery most ofthe time. This makes me a little bit resentful, seeing how rich his life is and how barren and bleak mine is.


    Struggle #2:

    He's an eternal optimist. I'm a pessimist. I want to believe in the things he says, yet, I simply can't. At the end of the day, when everything's turned out fine, I'm still miserable because I'm too busy worrying about the next thing that won't work.


    At least when I was alone or dating someone not so different there was a part of me that remind me to lighten up. Now my whole being wants to bring eternal doom into any room I enter.


    Struggle #3:

    When a person who isnt so likeable goes out with a social butterfly.

    I feel resentful whenever he's with his friends. He has like a 100 people in his life and i have like, 1 friend in my city and i never even visited her house.