Have you noticed this? In the man-o-sphere it's a common stereotype that women of weight will settle for any man. Or that women considered ugly by society have no reason to be chasing after attractive men. Obviously even people who are rated "low" in looks will have standards and won't just date any random person who doesn't suit their preferences. Same applies to oppas. Just because you "love" them doesn't mean they'll feel anything for you.
Why do people believe "less attractive" people don't have standards?
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right idk why ppl think that just bc some of us dont have "good looks" doesnt mean we dont have standers. hell im a trash can yet i have standers
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true in theory but what happens in reality is, people who realize they cant reach what they want do eventually lower than standards in fear of loneliness
thats how it works
no one is born equally gifted in any way
and people dont actually think or do what they say they want to
because we do not always know what we really need and might misjudge before we get a taste of the real thing
that said, a person born with rare beauty already has a much larger choice so it is very likely they are aware they can get both looks and personality so not likely they will settle for less
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Because they tend to think for some reason, we should "just be grateful" someone is interested in us.
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Lol I have high but wide ranging standards and I'm not that great looking, I think
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I got that comment a lot when I worked in music and told people my list of 5 dating rules.
- No Musicians
- No One with Past Issues Abusing their Partners
- No One over 5 years older than me (I increased it a few years ago to 10 years)
- No One who does not match my morals (no racists, homophobes, transphobes, misogynistic attitudes, no rape apologists. etc. Essentially be a decent human to others).
- No lying about age or not having kids, when you do have kids (this is VERY common)
I would list these as being my standards for myself when people would ask for a second date, if they broke any of those I would say no and kindly explain myself. I would then get told I am too scary to date and that I am too ambitious for a woman, and that "should be glad they gave me a chance to date them". Usually I would go home and end the night blocking that person.
Keep your standards, when they are reasonable like above. Do not let people disrespect y'all, please.
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Lol I have high but wide ranging standards and I'm not that great looking, I think
My standards are very high and narrow. I'm not judgmental either. I think there's no reason to fault people for not being born the way they are
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My standards are very high and narrow. I'm not judgmental either. I think there's no reason to fault people for not being born the way they are
There's nothing wrong with having standards
The problem is when people don't have any and will date any jerk off the street
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My standards are very high, I won't date anyone who:
- goes against what I believe in, so racists, homophobes, ect
- has a past with abusive relationships (where they were the abuser), alcohol problems, drugs, crime in general
- has no friends (this leads to over dependant partners)
- doesn't accept the fact that I will date men, women and all genders or sexes, all races and religions, and people from all cultures
- doesn't accept that I am my own person, and I will do what I choose to do, no matter how much I love the person
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The bigger problem is being so selfish that you will die without doing anything worthwhile.
Yeah that's very true, but that's not about standards
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and some pretty people have low standards as well. I've seen good looking people dating unattractive people.
some people might be very attractive but still have self esteem issues not they don't might have high standards for physical appearance.
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and some pretty people have low standards as well. I've seen good looking people dating unattractive people.
some people might be very attractive but still have self esteem issues not they don't might have high standards for physical appearance.
Or their personal standards just happen to be for different qualities?
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Or their personal standards just happen to be for different qualities?
yeah I wanted to say that too some people have different values as well it's all relative to the person.
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yeah I wanted to say that too some people have different values as well it's all relative to the person.
I am not/have never considered myself a particularly attractive person, even when I was younger. What I do know is that I noted a bit of a shift as I grew older between trying to go for people I thought were hot and had similar interests to me to gravitating more to people (in friendships or romantic relationship) because of deeper values or shared beliefs. I mean, obviously, for a relationship you still need to have physical attraction, but I started being aware there were more important things which needed to considered, for me at least, anyway.
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